I'm married for 11 years now. Before getting married I used to work as a math teacher in the evening. However, about 8 years ago, I was told by a friend that I could earn much more money if I worked as a hooker in the evening instead of teaching. In fact, after I changed my profession I managed to increase my income in more than 100%. Thats bacause the clients use to pay expensive taxes, especially if you accept to have anal sex wihout any condoms. I have no regrets about it because our life has become much better since then due the extra money I started to bring home. With that money we could finally finish paying our house and even buy a new car. However, my hushand doesn't even suspects the job I've been doing. I know it's not fair to keep lying to him, but I'm afraid of losing him and losing the money. I need both of them. What should I do?
2006-11-14 12:28:03 · 23 answers · asked by Myself 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you just posted this same question about 1 hour ago didn't you ? and if you care to look you can all ways read my last reply to your post WHORE .
2006-11-14 12:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to decide what is most important to you - the job you have, and the money you obtain from it, or your husband.
I think that yes, your husband definitely has the right to know about your job...I mean, because you are having sex with other people, you could contract something, and putting him in danger like that (which could result, no matter how much protection you use), means that he really should know what's going on - he should have that right.
In my opinion, you should tell him, but be prepared for things to go badly. Things could go okay, but most likely, I would assume it would be a rough situation. Your husband would most likely feel angry, hurt, betrayed, and probably mad that you have on numerous occasions endangered him by having unprotected sex. You need to think hard about what could happen...he might forgive you, he could get really angry for a while...worst case scenario is he'd leave you or want a divorce, and you need to prepare yourself for that decision.
If you have no regrets and say that you can't lose the money, sounds like you are picking your job over him. Basically, you have to choose one, and after telling your husband, you might not be able to choose between the two things.
Overall, I personally think you need to tell him, because what you do affects him. Think long and hard about what to say, and tell him in the gentlest way possible. You really need to figure out where your priorities are, and what you are willing to give up. I suppose then you can be ready to make a choice.
Good luck, you have a lot to think about.
2006-11-14 12:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoo?!?! You don't need both of them. First any job you have is your business, but also you husbands. If this was really a good thing then you would have never had to hide it. You have a choice you life style or your husband.
And yes any sane man will divorce you because you have lied all this time but also is that the person he married? And you better have a hella of a lawyer!!
Greed or Marriage. There is no real answer to this question only you.
2006-11-14 12:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by ladyspryt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you going to explain when one of you ends up with a serious disease because you prefer anal sex without protection to the health of your husband of 11 years? You should be ashamed of yourself. What will you tell him when you come home with the crap beaten out of you by a pervert?? I could go on and on, but you are too into money. By the way, YES, he has the right to know.
2006-11-14 12:44:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all have choices to make in life my dear. thats why most of us opt out of making the fast cash it comes with a severly high price.
Most men don't want there wives sleeping around with any man so i can't say your husband will be pleased with this. nor will he be happy on the woman he thought he was marrying only to find out you surcummed to this.
You say you want both well im sorry to tell ya you won't get both. You already chose whats more important and that is the money. now you must live with your decision. You can't back track and want him to. you made this decison all on your own and the fact you kept it from him tells me you know he wouldn't have approved so no getting around your expensive mistake now. Hope you enjoy rolling around in all that money and it keeps you warm at night and when your sick it takes good care of you.
And I hope your poor husband doesn't get to down on himself for picking such a woman as you.
2006-11-14 17:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no choice but to tell him! You have probably already brought him home something if you have been doing it for 8 years. You need to get tested yourself. I SERIOUSLY hope you do NOT have any children because you would make a sh*tty mother. You will end up with no husband but you will still have your money so I hope you can buy yourself some happiness.
2006-11-14 12:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him now, all hell will break loose cause he thinks that nothing is wrong. Then he'll want to know how long you've been doing it for. Then he'll find out how long it's been and then he'll really get pissed off, and say that he can't trust you. You're in a bad situation. Why, if you wanted to tell him, did you wait 8 years to do so? If you tell him now, I'm afraid that it'll be the end of your marriage, due to how hurt he will be. Good Luck with whatever you do.
2006-11-14 12:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by barracudasounds 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hon, after 8 years ... He already knows!
However, since you have only doubled your income, you have me worried! You should be making a heck of a lot more than that! IMHO!
Next, I am concerned for your wellbeing. Has anyone ever told you about "safe sex" or STD's? Especially considering back door sex!
You and your hubby need to be tested for some serious deseases!
Just MHO,
The Ol' Sasquatch Ü
Okay, myself! Chuckle - chuckle! You got me (us) on this one!
(Never try to offend a Sasquatch as you have done here). It just ain't nice! Take care walking in the forest! He-he-he!
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2006-11-14 12:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what your user name says it all. The only person your really concerned about is YOURSELF. i can't believe your for real in what your saying?! Your having unprotected anal sex with guys you don't know and by the way your also cheating and lying to your husband! I pray to GOD I personally don't come across a woman like you. You don't care about your MARRIAGE or your HUSBAND, you only care about money and material possesions. It only reminds me where this world and the MORELS of todays society is going to (HELL!). Do your husband a favor and DIVORCE HIM! FAST!!!!
2006-11-14 12:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by ausaramenra2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Double your price for taking it up the azz. This way you can do it half as much. Also, never use protection during sex. This way you can explain to hubby that you still teach math, and are now multiplying.
2006-11-14 12:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by MisterRE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you found your wife in bed with your 89 year old grandmother (or is it 90 year old?).
Now you have a husband and you are a hooker?
Perhaps you should find a real life.
2006-11-14 12:47:09 · answer #11 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋