what do i do?

Question

i am the most hated person in muskogee oklahoma-all i did was fall for a married man and yes we got caught. So its over and i am working on my strained relationship with my husband who left me months earlier, and thats how i come to live in the house of this married man. but now i have no friends and it wasnt just me he knew he was married, he came on to me, so why is it i am the only bad person? oh and he and his wife had an "open" relationship, i had permission to sleep with him!! could i help it if he fell in love with me? all she does is sleep all day and is lazy-we had fun and played games and watched movies-so i am the hated person now how do i fix it?

Answer 1

Well, honestly, you leave the situation, move somewhere away from him, divorce your husband and go on with your life.

Answer 2

Is life in Muskogee Ok. that great that you can't at least plan to leave in say a year from now? I was an Okkie myself (sorta was born in Kansas near the border) stayed with my grand parents around a little country town. Life is just too slow there! I've been in Calif. New Jersey, Wisconsin, Japan, Korea, ...etc... Hated most but loved the last one I stopped at. What I'm saying is you sound fairly intelligent. You should do well anywhere you go. Do a Monster.com and get a job similar and boogie out of state. Time for a do over. Let a few years go by and then visit OK again.

Answer 3

well first of all, you need to ask God to forgive you, and help you get your life straightened out. He loves you, and want's to help, all you need to do is ask. then, apologize to the people you've hurt, and ask their forgiveness, even if you have to write a letter to get it done. then, forgive yourself. you have to before you can move forward with your life. that's your part in fixing things.
How other people choose to treat you is up to them. if they choose to be mean and cruel to you, they will have to answer for that themselves.
even though you probably don't feel like it, the faster you get out there and start living again, the better off you'll be. and yes, there will probably be some dirty looks, and possibly some dirty comments, but don't give the people that do this the satisfaction of getting a response from you. that's what they want, so they can have something to gossip about.
you said you're working on your relationship with your husband, that's good. I know there's probably a lot to work through, but if both of you want to make it work bad enough, you can. just keep working on it.
and as far as your friends go, if they're your real friends, they'll come back around. and if not, you're probably better off making new ones anyway!
in time, people will get tired of talking about you, and find something or someone else to gossip about, but until then, just keep reminding yourself that you can't let your past ruin your future. things will get better. take care of yourself.
I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 4

You area always a hated person when you enter into and break up a marriage. No matter what the situation is like, once you make any attempt to destroy any relationship will be viewed with high level disrespect. So get real and face up to the music. Leave the area and go where you are more respected.

Answer 5

Women always get the bad rep. Just like if men like many women, they're "the man" but when a women likes many men, she's a hoe. That's why you never mess with a married man because they never leave their wives and all you have to show for the relationship is a wet a$$. But don't stress yourself, cuz everyone makes mistakes.

Answer 6

Find your own man....you are talking bad about her so you really never had any respect for her....I suppose she was probably your friend too... You hate yourself for doing what you did so now you think everyone hates you....Well they probably do!!! Put yourself in her shoes....You moved your friend into your home and she seduced your husband into making love to her....The sex was so good that he just kicked you to the curb and continued to have a relationship with your friend....WHAT WOULD YOU DO???? You were just a new chick on the block for him can't you see why he fell for you....Chick grow up....I guess it is true that misery likes company......

Answer 7

Sweetheart you are not a bad person. Sometimes stuff happens and we have to deal with it. So you made one mistake big deal. Don't let it bother you. People will soon come down of their high horse and see the big picture. Don't let yourself get down. Keep your head high and know that you are still a good person. We all make mistakes that we are not proud of but nothing can be perfect. You will be fine i promise.

Answer 8

Well there really isn't a way to redeem yourself but if u just let things be for awhile maybe it will blow over. The interest of the public is very short when something else comes up the attention will be on them.

Answer 9

ok, you made a mistake. cool we all do. just ignore all the talking. "the best revenge is a life well lived" i dont know where that wuote comes from, but let me tell you, if you just go on being amazing and fun and kind, it's gunna shut those people up. trust in yourself and try to always do the right thing. it will turn out alright.

Answer 10

Shanna,

Let some time pass ... be your self...when people make comments take the time to share what you did here. At least you'll get your story told. Don't change because you got burned ... just be more careful the next time you strike a match !

Answer 11

Move towns. Start fresh and ask your husband if he can ever respect you again. Can you respect him for coming back to you? Both of you were wrong to get into this, stop worrying about his punishment and accept your own part.
He will have his problems, dont you worry.