Do you think pre-nup is a joke?

Question

Aren't they setting themselves up for failure? Only rich do this?

Answer 1

It depends on the people involved, their ages and the amount of "assets" they have.

I think young married couples, who marry for the first time, have no reason to consider a pre-nup. They are coming into the marriage with little or nothing and starting off on their life together.

However, when the people involved are "older", "successful", and have considerable "assets", I think a pre-nup is a very good idea.

Suppose a woman had been married to her husband for over 40 years or so. They built a life together, raised a family and acquired certain "assets" during that lifetime. Their intentions were to ensure that any "assets" they had upon their death, went to their children.

Then the husband dies and the wife is left alone. A few years pass and she starts dating for "companionship". She meets someone and they decide to get married. They were both previously married and each had acquired "assets" of their own.

Do you think it would be right if she died shortly after the new marriage and the current husband decided to keep all of her "assets" and leave nothing for her children? I don't.

That's why people usually have a pre-nup. To protect "assets" that they made BEFORE they met their new spouse. Sometimes they have a business or a lot of property. Why should the new spouse be entitled to all the "assets" they made BEFORE they met them?

Most confident and successful people don't have a problem understanding the value of a pre-nup, they aren't "threatened" by it. I think the people who have the most problems with a pre-nup are the people who are more concerned about what might happen to them in the "event of a divorce". Personally I think they are the ones who are "setting themselves up for failure".

Only "my" opinion, everyone is entitled to their own. Good luck.

Answer 2

are you kidding now a days all we need to remember is the latest with kevin featherhead and paul macartney soon to be ex. i've read enough on here too i may add that many women are only looking for a bank account in a man and forget the sex and anything else . So i would recommend if you have any money worth keeping to get a pre nup. why should all your money be given away to some one who used you. I rather give it to a charity at least the kids starving would appreciate it. than some of these users out here that just take take take till you bleed.

shame on those kinds of people.

Answer 3

I don't think pre-nup makes the marriage fail anymore than not having one makes it succeed. Are you setting yourself up for an auto accident when you buckle your seat belt? It's just a realistic precaution. The fact of life is that people get divorced, and people get into auto accidents. Doesn't mean you personally will experience either, but it does happen.

Answer 4

I don't think pre-nup is an joke, because their are vast majority of people out there doing this....think about this....you worked very hard for many years and established yourself financially comfortable....you marry....you divorce....and just about everything is swept under you....all gone....you think to yourself all the hard work was a waste of time....you could get deppression, you could loose friends, you probably wont socialise with other people....You just dont know whats around the corner until its too late!!!!

Answer 5

Well that depends. I finally bought a house I always wanted to leave something for my daughter but if I marry again my new husband would get the house that I spent years saving for. So if there's kids involved yes, otherwise I don't see the point unless one comes into the marriage with alot of money & the other nothing.

Answer 6

It is not just for the rich it just a way of protecting yourself and this way you can examine your expectations of one another. And let's face it with a divorce rate higher than 50% and knowing how vengeful and cruel in nature humans can be when it comes to divorce you'd be a fool not to somehow protect yourself your potential family and assets.

Answer 7

haha. yeah right. if what's his face ever tried to come back to me, i would make him sign over everything he owns in a prenup before we ever got married. one step further, i would do the same in a cohabitation agreement (kinda like the same thing for unmarried people that live together) if he ever wanted to move back in with me.

i think it's a trust thing. it shouldn't matter if you aren't going to do something wrong anyway.