She's the most wonderful woman a man could ask. She cooks, cleans, and is very caring with me and she takes care of herself, she loves me to death. We've been marrie for only 2 yrs, and we have a little 1 1/2 yr old princess. This is the thing I'm 28 and I'm a business owner ( Insurance Company ) which I want to growth and it seems that she's holding me back, (at least that's the way I see it ) so I lost interest in a relationship. I KNOW I KNOW I should of thought about this before I got marrie, but it's too late. I love my little princess and I will always be by her side. I know that if I keep this relationship I'm just going to hurt her by not paying attention to her or by not being home most of the day. But then I'm afraid that I'm just going to get old and alone. Which way should I go??
2006-11-14 11:34:51 · 15 answers · asked by Shadow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
family . my kids are my pride and joy
2006-11-14 11:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Your family and the responsibility that comes with it should always be number one. So you have a good head for business, perhaps you can employ more people thus giving you more time to spend with the ones that love you. Sorry but I don't see any problem here other than maybe your own ego as far as success goes. Oh and trust me when I say that although you'll always be there for your little 1 1/2 year old princess, you may well be always there - only on a part time basis when here mom takes her from you in a bitter divorce.
2006-11-14 19:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had this same dilema. I chose family. I am an entreprenuer too, but in the end my kids want memories of me, not money to buy them things that will distract them when I'm not around. They'll remember that you're not around. Since you're so enterprising, find a way to do something that allows you to be with the family more. There is a solutution to every problem if you search for it. 2 years is not long enough to give up. She's not holding you back, chump, she has a different perspective. Maybe you should try on her glasses, or better yet, talk to her and find a compromise.
2006-11-14 19:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have valid points why don't you sit her down and let her know how your feeling. maybe she would support you and give up seeing you a bit more if you both have the same goals. and maybe not. most women prefer to be happy with there man over money and him gone all the time. but maybe she's up to it. either way as you say you stay this way and your miserable and by then your into more years and most likely more kids and when you do leave it will be even more harder.
So lay your cards on the table let her know how you feel and then listen to her. perhaps you can come to a comprimise and let her know if you throw this away your not fullfilling your life and its that important to you. Then give her time to think this over its very serious but its needed for your future together or apart. either way she has the right to know how your feeling and she has the right to know if this is going to upset the house and home and you need to know yourself as you can't continue on.
Good luck to both of you.
2006-11-15 02:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately go for the family kinda man, I know a business is very important but if this love is for real you better stick to it especially when you have a child. Maybe you can talk things out and try to work things out for shorter hours. If this isnt possible look for a better job with more convienient hours I mean you must be pretty educated
I hope this was what you were looking for good luck :)
2006-11-14 19:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by erin g 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband works almost 24/7. He is only home from 10pm - 7am Monday,Wednesday, and Friday. Sometimes on Sunday morning he will come home to eat breakfast with us, then it's back to work. We have 2 boys, and I know my boys and myself miss him when he's not home, but he is working at buying the business he works for. He is trying to make a better life for me, our boys and himself. And at times I do hate the fact that he is never home but I also understand why he is never home, and we have become used to it, and I trust my husband to take care of us and he trust me to take care of our family at home. As long as your family understands what your doing is for them, and you have love and trust in your relationship, I see no reason why you should have to give up one for the other. That's not to say it wont still be hard on both of you cause it will be. Just make sure you make the time you do spend together quality time. And remind them why you are working so much. Remember there are bound to be bumps in the road on the way.
2006-11-14 19:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest to choose u r family. family is first. u can make money. u need to be a owner. and u still can be successful in u r job. u didn't tell us haw she is holding u back. but. I gust u r family first. think if u r 50 or 57 or even 40 and u don't have a family yet u have money but money is not everything. stay with u r wife with the woman u build u r future with. don't ruined try to work it out but don't life her.
2006-11-14 19:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've created a family, so you need to stick with your family through good times and bad. But why do you have to choose one or the other. You can choose to grow your business, and still make time for your family (like maybe on the weekends?) but there are ways to have both.
By the way, there are plenty of CAREER MOMS out there, that seem to get by ok with juggling both...kudos to those moms!
2006-11-14 19:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Prioritization is the key. At lot of people in this world have a happy family life and a successful business. Why can't you make it work when others can?
2006-11-14 19:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Choose family.
2006-11-15 03:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally, I love money as much as the next person but I love my husband and daughter more.
2006-11-14 19:40:21 · answer #11 · answered by Tanya 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋