I Want To Have Sex With My bf We Have Been Together For 4 Years I am 17 He Is 18 And We Really Want To Should We ??
2006-11-14 11:34:08 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I Am Ready For A Baby In FAact Im On Birth Control And We R Going To Use A Condom But Im Ready For A Baby And Its His First Time 2 So Nlow Threat Of An STD Thanks For Worning Me Though
2006-11-14 11:48:33 · update #1
if you truly love him and he truly loves you. and don't have sex because he wants you to. have sex when you TRULY feel comfertable. if you have any doubts don't do it. remember you will regret it if you don't love him and if he leaves you (im not saying he will because i don't know him but please be careful) you should think of STDs if he has any, and think of how you might get pregnant. use trojan condemns and don't use oil based ky jelly use water based ky jelly because oil based ky jelly will break your condemn.
2006-11-14 11:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't listen to people who make really hateful sounding comments like "sure, if you want aids...."
Sex is a very big deal and a very important decision and you don't need people trying to scare you out of it. You need people helping you to make an informed decision.
Personally, I think it's *ideal* if everyone could wait for marriage, but I realise that's not always realistic. If you are truly in love, if you trust each other *completely* and you feel sure you are ready, then it sounds like you've made an informed decision. Just make sure that if you do go ahead and have sex, that it's safe sex.
If you have any little doubts left about whether or not you want to do it, here is one question that I think is helpful---consider how you will feel, say in 2 years from now if you and your boyfriend are broken up. Not necessarily anything nasty or a bad breakup---it might be a mutual decision and you may still respect each other a great deal, etc....but, *if* you are broken up 2 years from now, do you think you'd feel very regretful that you had sex with him?
If you think the answer to that question would be "no, i don't have regret, I cared for him a great deal and it was a lovely experience to share together, even though we are no longer together" then I think it sounds like you are capable of making the right decision.
Good luck---and remember to keep it safe!
2006-11-14 11:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok you should ask yourself that again."I'm ready for kids". I mean r u really sure you want to have at this age and what would your mother or father think. I mean I'm not saying that you shouldn't have sex because that's your choice and no one can stop you for making up your mind. But I think that you should stay on your pills and keep wearing comdons. I'm 33 and I was like that too I got pregnant when I was 16 but my baby died then I'm at 3 now 2girls and 1 boy. But i was 19 20 and 26 when I had them.
But if you think your ready for a baby then give a shot and then think. And also maybe you should talk to your mom or dad about this.
2006-11-14 15:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by miss.lovable4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are too young for that right now! Listen, once you have sex with a guy, thats it, you gotta keep doing it, because they wont understand that it was a one time thing to experiment. You are opening pandoras box of problems. Also, if you decide not to listen to me and go ahead and do what you want, which is what your going to do anyways regardless of what anybody tells you. Always remember to use a condom and a second form of birth control because 18 is too young to have kids, and believe me youre going to get pregnant because boys and girls that age dont know any tricks, not that there are many tricks to avoid this anyways, but they just dont know and let themselves get carried away with pleasure. Even if you have been together for 4 years 18 is too young still to have sex. Wait at least till youre 21 and have dont more research on protecting yourself and him from STDS and getting pregnant.
2006-11-14 11:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your going to make such a major decision, a life changing one at that, based on what responses you receive on "answers", I would advise you to wait awhile longer. Your not ready. If you've been together this long, you already have a beautiful foundation started. Your very lucky to have that, when your ready you'll know it in your hearts; together, and you wont need anyone elses advise. Just be sure to see your Doctor first to discuss birth-control options for yourself. Good luck!
2006-11-14 11:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by CMA Teacher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask...no don't. Are you ready to accept ALL the responsibilities of sex? Birth control isn't always effective...are you ready to have and care for a child? Are you ready to experience STD's? Sex is not a moment...it is a lifetime. Please, do not have sex until you can say a firm yes to the questions above.
Ready for a baby at 17, and you're going to support this baby how? A minimum wage job, health care, clothing, diapers, child care, education. Please rethink this!!! You are NOT ready to have a child!!
2006-11-14 11:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
ok listen can u guys just wait a year cause it is illegal at ur age!!!!! also be sure u are ready, and hes not sleepin w/ other girls and hes honest (this is cause of STDs)! r u sure u are ready, if u r ready to have sex u should be ready to get married. i'd say wait till u get married, but at least plz plz wait till ur of legall age(18).if u get caught by the police ethier he will get charged w/ rape( wich prob. won't happen) or u will BOTH go to jail!!!!!!! PLZ WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if ur not gonna wait just make sure u have the supplies, u know how to use a condom properly, u r REALLY ready, and most important, u love him
2006-11-14 11:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...Do You Think after u guys have sex, that he'll still love you the same..?¿ I would say wait until you guys are married, but if you truly, honestly, and deeply love this guy, then I say go for it..! Use a condom, and make sure it doesnt have a hole in it, and then have fun..!!
Just a lil' more info: Losing your virginity hurts!! so have fun with the pain..! but dont let it interrupt your special night..!
2006-11-15 15:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is enough for you to question it this much then I don't think so. I don't know why but it sounds like there are some hesitations you may have. As long as you have any reservations than no. I know you may think it's no big deal, but trust me, you could always regret it later. You always hear of people regretting they had it but I have never heard of anyone regretting they didn't have it. Find out why you're questioning it and don't go through with it until that is resolved.
2006-11-14 11:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some one said makes sure you are ready cause you cant take it back. I agree. You are also always connected to your first. Wear protection, you are definately not ready for a baby. It is a lot of work and you are momy and no longer you anymore. Live alittle, no live alot first.
2006-11-14 12:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, look at the consequences: you have a risk of getting pregnant and getting an STD...your choice, no one on here will make much of a difference.
Honey, no offense but you DEFINITELY dont sound ready for a baby...for one thing, could you afford a baby? Do you have the perfect environment for raising a baby? are you planning on going to college..because if you have a baby, you cant go. I am around your age and let me tell you, I am probably more mature than you and >I< am not ready for a baby!
2006-11-14 11:36:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋