my in-laws are frying in to visit for the holidays thanksgiving....we don't get along so we made resevations to a nice restaurant...what do i talk about to keep the 2 hours from hell lite....
2006-11-14 11:32:59 · 8 answers · asked by non-curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should play more of an active listener mode if your afraid you may say something offensive. Try and be cordial and polite so as not to ruin either the holiday or the meal but I wouldn't bend over and kiss their asses if you feel that you've been wronged. Best of luck and keep an open mind also during the meal.
2006-11-14 11:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them the common courtsey that you would give a stranger on the street. Be a good listener remember if they are complainers you won't be able to do much about it. But you could turn the tables, asking things like, "so how did you and dad meet", "what was my husband like as a child" those sorts of things. Get them talking about something good. but remember civil is the best route.
2006-11-14 19:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do a bit of investigative work. Find what Mom likes to do with a hobby. Like.... oh, scrap-booking is a hot hobby for older folks. Anyway, after locating something she enjoys, goggle it and brush up on it's ins and outs. You will probably be discussing this with only Mom but that's the way these things go anyway.
2006-11-14 19:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy can I relate! Ask them about themselves and what they are doing... find out ahead of time, and then pretend to be interested. Keep the topics light. Don't go where you don't want to go. When the conversation starts to get into territory you don't want to go... head to the ladies room!
Do they travel? Do they read? Hobbies? Other grandkids that you also don't see much of? Find those topics you use at cocktail parties that you use on strangers.
It's what I do when I have to go out with the out-laws.
good luck!
2006-11-14 19:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their like my mother in-law you won't get a chance to talk.Maybe your husband will do alot of the talking.No matter what you try to talk about.Their disagree with you.Just sit there and listen.2hrs. isn't to long.Good Luck.
2006-11-14 19:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by star_utsf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to do the talking. It's HIS parents.
2006-11-14 19:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your hubby to go with them,and you go to the club
2006-11-14 19:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
man i wish i could fry my inlaws.
2006-11-14 19:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋