I'm married for 11 years now. Before getting married I used to work as a math teacher in the evening. However, about 8 years ago, I was told by a friend that I could earn much more money if I worked as a hooker in the evening instead of teaching. In fact, after I changed my profession I managed to increase my income in more than 100%. Thats bacause the clients use to pay expensive taxes, especially if you accept to have anal sex wihout any condoms. I have no regrets about it because our life has become much better since then due the extra money I started to bring home. With that money we could finally finish paying our house and even buy a new car. However, my hushand doesn't even suspects the job I've been doing. I know it's not fair to keep lying to him, but I'm afraid of losing him and losing the money. I need both of them. What should I do?
2006-11-14 11:32:44 · 51 answers · asked by Myself 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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I found my wife naked in our bed with my grandma (who is 89 year old). Should I divorce her?
Asked by Myself - 34 answers - Marriage & Divorce - 6 hours ago - Open
Hmm... a hooker with a husband who thinks she's a teacher and a wife who has had a homosexual relationship with her grandmother..?
Someone is telling little white lies here, no?
2006-11-14 11:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by btomkins88 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not exactly the poster girl for honesty, I think certainly if you are just dating someone then they do not need to know whether you live in a tiny apartment or a huge mansion or whatever because in the end a relationship isn't about that. But since it is a very serious thing to not have told your spouse, especially after many years of being married, and it could well end your marriage, you should tell your husband and be honest about it before it all comes out, because it can't be an easy secret to keep. And ask yourself if you really want to be doing it for the sake of a good income. Anyhow he definitely has a right to know for better or worse. Good luck.
2006-11-14 12:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by kadface 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OY! sweetie! Anal sex? without a condom? How often are you tested for STDs... oh by the way husband, I love you and I think I caught AIDS.... you might want to get tested.
umm that is probably the worst case scenario,... no the worst would be he has been utterly faithful and he finds out first that he has an STD and comes to you.... that is the worst.
Ymmm if you're not gonna tell him. Give it up. Now.
I don't believe too many men would want to stay married once something like this turns up.
Tell him or leave him or quit! Today!
2006-11-14 11:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by teritaur 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They say 'what you don't know won't hurt you' but I think that relationships especially marriage should consider honsety as being one of the most important things between the two people. That's my view, you should have come clean at the start or at least discussed it with him. I'm surprised you've managed to keep it a secret for so long!
I'd be very concerned with the fact you are willing to risk your health by having unprotected anal sex.
2006-11-14 12:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by waterbaby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either way you butts gonna hurt!
Good luck with that decision .... at least if your gonna roll the dice ...try insisting on wrapping that rascal ... there are much worse things you can bring home and share with your hubby than the cash!
Just hope he never brings a friend home and your too know the friend.
Just hope when you go out in public your not stopped and asked if there has been a rate change for your "Tourtering".
Good Luck ...... Buy a rabbits foot ...PS Don't go killin any rabbits!
2006-11-14 11:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by John 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats HOT but you can still get AIDS from having sex even with a condom on . Where is it that you are able to meet guys to have sex with ? Just be careful that he doesn't find out .Does it make you feel good to make up stories? Why don't you work on a book. Stop asking really stupid questions . Get a life !
2006-11-14 14:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What some people do for money! Of course you need to tell him. He is ur husband and if you guys have been married that long, he has the right to know what his wife has been up to. On the other hand, if you have been doing it for so long and he doesn't even suspect, then maybe he doesnt deserve to find out. Who can b that blind?!!!
2006-11-14 11:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by ur_strange2003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi, if you loved your husband you wouldn't have done it in the first place, i believe in the long run it is love and being healthy that are the important things and there are jobs out there if you look and they don't involve having sex with strange guys, you are stupid having sex with out condoms and obviously don't give a crap about passing diseases on to your husband or even giving him something more serious that could put his life in danger, how will he feel when he finds out if you aren't going to tell him he will eventually find out, either ringing where you teach and being told that you don't work there or a neighbour or friend telling him, i would give it up before you get raped or beaten or lose everything,
2006-11-14 22:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yea, you need to tell him, that's kinda a big secret to keep in marriage, and if you don't tell him, he'll probably find out another way, and that will be even worse....also on a side note get tested for STDs regularly, and I would suggest not going with out a condom even for the money, cuz you wouldn't want to bring something home to your husband!!
2006-11-14 11:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not this question AGAIN! The last time you were a nurse, not a teacher. I wonder what your real issues are here? You must be a pretty sad individual to keep putting these made up questions on here.
2006-11-14 20:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Caroline 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋