She says its over but still comes around and even stays the night with me but she keeps telling me she is not ready to commit back to this relationship
2006-11-14 11:25:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends sounds like she hasn't let go...so you got a chance, take her to a weekend get away, treat her like a Princess, and let her know you love her...
2006-11-14 11:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound like she is really sure what she wants right now. There is something making her question commitment. But also something keeping her near you.
It sounds like the only part she is wanting to keep is the sleep overs, and the company. But there's a reason she doesn't want the title anymore. Think about that.
You sound like a nice guy, don't let her drag you. If it is meant to be, it will be. But sometimes people need to be let go so they can miss it. Right now, she's enjoying this new "relationship" she has created with you. But you're not. Good luck.
2006-11-14 11:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Recreantess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start over. Ask her if there's any chance of giving it another try, but starting all over from scratch. Try "courting" her all over again and if there's something you did that contributed to her leaving then, if it's reasonable, make an effort to change and SHOW her that you can change. If she's not willing to give it another shot then I'd tell her to stop coming around, at least for a while until you establish your own life. It's not fair for her to continue coming around the way she is if it's really over. You don't have to stop being friends, but at least she should allow you to establish life on your own and then allowing YOU to decide when it's appropriate for her to step back in as a friend.
2006-11-14 11:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you may not want her back as badly as you think you do. it sounds like she's playing games with you. if she says it's over, I would take her at her word, and consider it over. and then, I would move on. you don't need someone telling you it's over, and then running back to you when she's bored or doesn't have anything better to do. and she's stopping you from moving on to other relatioships by coming around just enough to keep you thinking it's not really over when it really is. she's just doing what she want's, and then coming around just enough to keep control of your life too. you deserve better than to let yourself be manipulated like this. put her out, and tell her to stay out. remember, she's the one who says it's over.
good luck to you.
2006-11-14 11:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when she comes over it is simple, a taste of her own medicine. Do the do (s.e.x.) then don't let her spend the night, when she trips out and asks why, say your not ready to commit to that level and you need your space. piss her off but hey you got yours and you got revenge plus shell leave for good or understand your pain.
2006-11-14 11:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Re-gain her confidence by not pressuring her. Live the moment, so she can relax and enjoy, then maybe she is going to feel the need to be with you in a "more committed way"
2006-11-14 11:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by cecilia d 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she spends the night with you it doesn't sound like it is over. Try agreeing with her that it is over and she will probably pull back.
2006-11-14 11:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude - let her go - she's playing with your emotions - obviously she still want you or she wouldn't be over - she wants the power - give it to her - let her decide if she wants a relationship with you or not - if not - move on and don't have her over anymore - she needs to stop playing games - don't be played.
2006-11-14 11:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Show her how much u luv her take her out, make song or a poem for her. Just be passionate and romance her.
2006-11-14 11:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by Abena 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well im no expert but i would think that she probally wants to still be your FRIEND not GIRLFRIEND so maybe you should talk to her and ask her why she doesnt want to be with you and see if maybe later in the future she would like to be with you
2006-11-14 11:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋