girls only please! it just get worse every time i really need some help.?

Question

i'm thirteen, and i always get really bad cramps around my period. My period isn't due for almst two weeks, but the cramps started a few days ago. They're the worst ones I've had yet. I feel exhausted and I can't even seem to stand for long. I went to the doctor's only to come out with a packet on menstruation. I'm scared that there might be something wrong with me, and that's why they're so bad. yesterday, I started getting a headache too, and I'm just extremely tired. I never have it this bad, and I'm starting to get kinda depressed, and just walk around with this lump in my throat all day. I want to tell someone about it, but my parents aren't very sympathetic and I was out sick with the flu a few weeks ago so no one at school believes me and they all think I must be faking it and no one gets cramps so bad that they have to lie down. Are they right? Am I normal? Please can someone give me advice?

i've had it for since I was 11 1/2, ummm... yeah, I used to take advil, then switched to ibuprofin cuz it was more effective. I can't take midol or anything because my mom doesnt really get cramps so she doesn't think they're that bad or I should have medicine for them.

Answer 1

When I was younger and even now (at 26) I still get cramps like that. There are a couple easy things that help. Take Advil, it helps with the cramping. And if you put a heating pad across your middle it will also help. You might also try soaking in a hot bathtub of water, the heat will help relax your muscles. If it keeps bothering you, go back to your doctor and talk about going on birth control (even if you aren't sexually active) to help with your period. Sometimes the hormones in the pills will lesson your symptoms. And if you are uncomfortable with that, talk to him/her about muscle relaxers. As far as the tiredness, you might just need to take some vitamins with iron in them. If you are anemic (lack of iron in your blood), you will be tired, also being depressed will make you rather tired. Keep your head up and things will get better. Just know that you aren't alone with your problem.

Answer 2

I first got my period when I was nine years old. I had no cramps in the beginning, but by the time i was thirteen, they had gotten so bad that I had convinced myself I was dying. No matter how much medicine I was prescribed, it didn't seem to help. I'm twenty now, and I still get awful cramps. So, I assure you, you are completely normal. Welcome to women-hood. You have many, many more years left of this monthly agony.

Over the course of the years, I've found a few things that help ease the pain. A cramp is only an involuntary muscular contraction. I suggest you skip showers and take long baths everyday instead. Epsom salt baths tend to relieve muscle aches. Getting a full night's sleep also helps a lot. I usually have a hard time falling asleep during my period, so I sleep with a heating pad on my stomach, which loosens up the tightened muscles. Stay away from caffeine and sugars as much as possible. Laying in fetal position is great for temporary relief. Most importantly, drink lots and lots of water and be sure to keep hydrated!

I've also heard amazing things about the drug Naproxen, however, I've never taken it, so I'm not sure how well it actually works. You can find an overview of it here: http://www.drugs.com/naproxen.html

Good luck with everything! <3

Answer 3

You went to the doctor, but they didn't appear to take your symptoms seriously. I am sorry about that. however, nothing is wrong with you, you are just a little more sensitive than others around the time of your cycle.
Ibuprofen (motrin, advil) and a hot water bottle or warm bath are great cramp relievers. It is normal to have mood swings, fatigue, sleepiness, aches, etc. including depression around your menstrual cycle. Some women are worse than others, I have friends that are in agony on day 1 of their cycle and take to their beds. I know many others who just sail through. Every woman's experience with menstruation is unique. Lucky us.

Since you are 13, you may not have been menstruating for very long. Wait a few cycles to see if the cramps even out, and your mood too. If you are really in great pain, you could have endometriosis, but you would need an abdominal ultrasound to help make the diagnosis. You could also be having a growth spurt, which would be causing the pain as well.

Answer 4

You could be getting your period early. As far as the symptoms they are normal. Some just have it worse than others. Do you take midol or something for the symptoms? That will help your headache, bloating, cramps and also the tiredness. Also try a heating pad for the cramps when you lay down at night. Exercise sometimes helps the cramps lessen too. Go to your counselor at school and lean on her ear for a bit. Good Luck..

Answer 5

I'd seek a second doctor's opinion if I were you. When I was in high school, I used to get cramps so bad that I couldn't get out of bed. No over-the-counter medicines like Midol or Tylenol would help, so I went to my doctor and she put me on birth control. The next month, I had almost NO cramps whatsoever and could actually live a normal life during my period.

Answer 6

i used to go through the same when i was about 14 and it lasted for some years. at first i used to take painkillers but my mother,who was a nurse, said it's bad for the body. i found a remedy myself and it worked well. just put a piece of cloth with alcohol ( the type they use in hospitals or for injections) on your belly, have a cup of hot tea with lemon, lie down on your belly and sleep for about 2 hours. you'll see the pain has disappeared when you wake up. the alcohol numbs the pain and relaxes the muscle, while the hot tea and sleep help you relax and calm down.
also have a healthy diet and relaxation during that period, with little effort and replacing the baths with short warm showers.
to tell you the truth, the pains disappeared completely only after i got pregnant first time, but this doesn't mean you have to bear the pain for so long.
if nothing seems to work, pls go to the doctor- there might be a problem they can solve only.
good luck and take care- teenage is wonderful anyway so don't let some pain spoil it.

Answer 7

You may be anemic. I've been anemic more than once. It's a deficiency in your iron level. Try taking some over-the-counter iron pills once a day. In a week, see if it helps. If not, go back to the doctor and don't go out without some help (other than a packet on menstruation). Good luck sweetie! And I know that you CAN have cramps bad enough to where you have to lay down. It's no fun, I know.

Answer 8

Getting the advice of one doctor and staying back without any satisfaciton is no good. Just go to another gynaecologist. doctors do have a remedy for menstural pains. the hormones produced during the periods acts upon the body especially on uterus and if you lack any requisites it directly acts upon your breast and the muscles around your breast muscles like your waist etc.

Even then I can assure you that the pain during periods to any tolerable extent is normal. These days, doctors dont really take good care of their patients and dont diagonise the problem accurately at the first visit or second visit. May be, the doctor want you to visit him/her for atleast 5-6 times or until she/he is satisfied with the fees you pay every time. They only work for the fees you pay and not with a real service mind. you can always try another psychologist preferably a age old female gyno would help you better.

taking any pain killing tablet during period will hold good only until your marriage. once you get married, you can't always depend upon painkillers, as there are so many other facts you should mind upon.

do mail me if you have to know gynaecologists' addresses in bangalore.

Answer 9

i am 26 now and when i was your age i had the worst cramps ever, i would throw up and couldn't get out of bed. the only thing that would make me feel better is getting in a really hot bath for like an hour. this is normal but i have to say that you should not have to suffer if they are really this bad. talk to your mom or someone else about how much pain you are in and make them listen. sometimes people who have not experienced bad menstrual pain like yours will think you are exaggerating the pain. the best thing you can do is go to the doctor and get on birth control. i know this is a little scary at your age, but it is really the only thing that works. my mom actually tried to get me to take birth control when i was your age for my cramps, but i wouldn't because i was to embarrassed. eventually i did and my pain is practically gone. good luck

Answer 10

I also had terrible cramping with my periods. I went through my teenage years in excrutiating pain. In my 20's I found out about MIDOL - it is an exceptional product for these cramps. If you have not tried it - I am sure you will be happy with the results. You can find it at any pharmacy.