okay, so well, this yr, i started a new middle school. i'm in 8th grade, and at the orientation thing before the first day of school, i met these two girls that were also new and seemed really nice, so i became friends with em. and for a while, it seemed like we were bffs, but then... now its sorta falling apart.
i'm more of the LOL, really-hyper, fun, outgoing type of person.... and one of my friends only talks about homework, which is really boring, and my other friend only criticizes everything i do (like the last time i cut my hair she said it looked horrible and why did i have to cut it it looks like a disaster.. when i actually liked it).
and so then i started hanging out with other people, people like me, who are fun, and who i can talk about my crushes with... because with my other friends, we do NOT talk about crushes. only homework and bad stuff about other people. and i dont like saying bad stuff bout people.
**MORE ON ADDITIONAL DETAILS**... darn limit.
2006-11-14 11:21:47 · 12 answers · asked by Seira T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and so then whenever my other friends (the friends that are not really my friends anymore) see me hanging out with this new group, they come up to me and they say stuff to me. like, "ditcher! you ditched us! you hate us, don't you?"
when they say that, i wanna say "you cant control my life! i don't even like you! i can't even TALK to other friends!?" but i dont, because id ont like fights.
so i just listen to them, but i still wanna hang out with those other friends, since they're really fun to be with.
but then whenever i do that, they come up to me and insult me once again...
i dont know what to do....
help...
2006-11-14 11:22:09 · update #1
OK, here the deal, i just did the same exact thing, only, it was like four months ago so i already resolved my problem. don't tell them that they are boring or any of that stuff. but, you do have to confront them. the most important thing when confronting them is to stay calm. just tell them that you have a different personality and that you feel more at peace with the other group. they should take that at face value. if they are still upset try the approach of getting back with that group and be yourself. it is obvious they cant stand a person who is not a clone of themselves (the thing with the hair) so, if you are original, they will not want you around. be loud, be happy, talk about boys and crushes, they will go NUTS! then, you will be free to go to the group that fits with you. either of these should work, but try the first one first. the second one is gunna be harder for you to pull of. i promise one of these will work. tell me how this all works out OK? my email is dangoman_1@yahoo.com. if you don't write, its cool, but i still want to know how you resolve this problem.
2006-11-14 11:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sierra i had the same problem in middle school. im a freshman in highschool now, and these things will happen. first off you found good friends that you really like and thats fantastic. dont let anything ruin that, good trusting friendships are hard to come by. just ignore those other girls, it doesnt matter what they say to you. if they continue to bug you talk to them or tell a parent or teacher.just tell them why you left if you really want to be honest. i truly wish the best for you and your new friends. i learned this from experiance and i hope it helps.
2006-11-14 11:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by classified c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one of these situations, just get together with your "old friends" and tell them you seem to have more in common, more similar personalities with these other girls, but you defiantly don't hate them and make sure to occasionally get together with the old girls, and don't ignore them in public, say hi and short catch up conversations, and you should be okay :)
2006-11-14 11:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omgosh that sounds just like me and my friends im the one whos hyper and stuff also =]],
well find something all of you guys have in common it will work out because when i was in 7th grade we werent very close either but this year its buch better, infact i just came back from the mall with them =P
2006-11-14 11:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by xxforeverfamousxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also in 8th grade, and if they did that to me, i'd tell them that i dnt hate them, but you don't enjoy doing the same stuff and stuff like that, and tell them why you left them, just never say i hate you...
2006-11-14 11:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just should tell them that that you left because they always criticized you. They don't seem like good friends so don't value their opinions.
2006-11-14 11:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Crisscross 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in seventh grade, and you should tell your friends how you feel about your relationship. Maybe they'll understand and back off
2006-11-14 11:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that just go tell them that you didnt really ditch them they were just not fun. Well it might be hard to do that but just face your fears! ^_^
2006-11-14 11:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im srry but i would ditch them, throw them down the drain. its harsh but it will make your life easier.
2006-11-14 11:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Double A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't your real friends. Go back to your real ones.
2006-11-14 11:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋