this happens every year. she makes a big deal out of giving gifts as a couple for the holidays. i don't mind it but for my father and my brother, my closest family, i have this need to give them gifts from only me, like they are my family, i have a very personal connection with them. i think my fiance feels that if we don't give gifts together then she thinks I don't want to marry her. yea shes like that because shes been engaged then dumped before so i understand, but should i stand my ground since it feels right even thought in the end it doesn't matter, since it is just gifts? thanks ppl!!!
2006-11-14 11:21:36 · 5 answers · asked by mike d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I look at it like this.When u get married u will lose all your rights in doing something alone.So u need to stand your ground and do this for u.Plus explain to her what u just said to us. If she doesn't understand then u need to really evaluate your relationship with her. I mean if she is this troubled about something this small then what happens when u two have real problems.I wish u all the luck.
2006-11-14 11:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could you give a gift as a couple,
and a more personal gift from just yourself?
Help your fiancee understand it's nothing personal, if she still decides to believe you're up to no good, let her know that's not your intent. Sorry you cannot choose how someone is going to respond to what you say and/or do. She's just going to have to learn by experience that it is not your intent to dump her simply because you want to give a gift of your own to your family.
2006-11-14 11:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by CarolynJayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a couple now. do the joint gifts to make her feel part of your family. Not allowing it will make her feel like an outsider.
2006-11-15 03:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are personal, they should reflect how you personally feel towards the person, I think you should explain it to her. She should understand it. If not she needs to work on her own insecurities. Let her buy them her own gifts - if she desires to stay in and on their good side, this could help her, with them and even with you.
2006-11-14 11:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground but break it down exactly how you just did now.
2006-11-14 11:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋