Is it possible to feel happy and sad at the same time ?

Question

this is how I am most of the time, my Gemini personality is often split in two, I wish my two halves would come together more often and have some peace of mind. Does anyone else ever feel this way ? I am sane, no mental; illness.

Answer 1

Back in university, in my drama class, my acting teacher said, "the stronger the tension between a character's opposite/mixed emotions, the more interesting the scene will be"

Friend, feeling happy and sad at the same time has less to do with you being a Gemini, and more to do with you being a human. Part of being human is exactly that -- every emotion is mixed, every silver lining has a cloud, every choice leaves regrets, every gain has a hidden cost.

I watched my mother die of cancer, and while part of me cried, another part sighed and said "well, now that's finally over; I can move on to the next chapter." (And of course, when I started that next chapter, it wasn't separated neatly from the chapter before it, anyway, as I'd hoped it would be.)

That isn't to say that I'm a cold person -- far from it. It's just to say that every part of the human experience is short-lived, or mixed, or contradictory. If you don't see windows open every time a door closes, if you don't see God's, or Life's, or Allah's left hand taking while the right hand's giving, if your joy isn't mixed with a little sadness, and your sadness isn't mixed in with moments of joy, I'd suggest it's mostly because you aren't paying attention!

Don't fight it -- you'll just frustrate yourself over something that can't be changed in life. Try to find peace with the contradictions, and learn from the tension between opposites.

"in the very temple of delight,
veiled melancholy has her sovran shrine"

John Keats - Ode on Melancholy

So yes, I feel that way too. All the time. Except during the short breaks when I don't.

(and I'm not a Gemini)

Answer 2

Water is the element of Gemini people. They are indeed known to have contrasting traits in their personality. The opposite of water is fire, and when both elements get together spectacular displays can be observable. This is also the fact the steam turned the first wheel of industrial revolution, and steam is what everyone is after in life everywhere. We can also see hot and cold waters in the same part of an ocean running side by side – called ocean currents.

It is also possible to be happy and sad at the same time. There are things that can make us feel happy but only true happiness brings an enhanced awareness to mind. When truly happy, we are more likely to feel for others, the ones who do not have what we have in our lives as happiness. We are more likely to think of our relations, both living and the gone, as we like so much to share our happiness with them. We like our happiness to increase and last forever, and this is what makes us sad.

Sadness on the other hand can have much deeper effects upon our hearts and mind. Sadness can be shallow, but it can also be very profound. This all depends upon what make us feel sad, as sadness can come from the moments of better realisation in our life, and it can also be a consequence of ignorance. In the former instance we can be sad and feel a certain assurance and fulfilment inside at the same time. We may even feel happy for feeling sad for feeling is in most cases is living. We may have lost something but that invaluable sense of loss if we do not lose we may feel sad but we will not feel blank or downtrodden – for in our sense of loss are all the seeds of all gains. And this is the very story of creation of human life upon earth; the story of the loss of paradise and our continual endeavours to regain in this life.

Answer 3

Well if your friend told u she got the job of a lifetime but she'd have to move away you would be happy that she got the job but sad she was moving at the same time. It's not about mental illness there just are situations where u can feel 2 contrasting emotions at the same time.

Answer 4

It is possible, and I don't think you should base your mental patterns on astrology. Though if you must, think, why is a personality split in two. If the bothersome answer 'because they are gemini' interferes, define gemini. Think, how does astronomical situation at birth actually affect mind patterns throughout one's life? You will find yourself in a new philosophy, but you may half understand this one.

Don't blindly follow any science if you have eyes, don't simply agree with what they tell you is true; experiment, conceive, understand.

Answer 5

I have felt this - though not on a regular basis. I remember crying when George VI (the Queen's father) died; I was just a child then, and I was so upset because he was a lovely man, everyone loved him. But when our present Queen was crowned I was very happy for her. We had a new monarch, so young and beautiful, and post-war hope was in the air.

And I suppose what everyone forgets is that she herself had to deal with the sadness of her father's recent death.

Answer 6

It's normal, everyone experiences it, and it has nothing to do with being Gemini and everything to do with being human. It's called bittersweet.

By the way, in intro psych. classes, students are randomly given horoscopes after being asked their birthdates and then asked to rate how much the descriptions of the signs match them: students without fail say that the descriptions match them--and then they find out they were given the wrong sign's description :-) Use your head and really evaluate the whole horoscope thing. All the best to you.

Answer 7

I'm not a gemini but I do feel like that at times..... mixed feelings.
Try to think about the happy part rather than the sad part.

Answer 8

Yes.....of course, irrespective of our birth signs. Feeling of any kind is certainly a virtue and differtent kind of feeling at same time is quite possible.....for example, a couple of weeks ago one of my best friends passed a kind of competitive examinations conducted by the government in flying colours and her name was published everywhere congratulating her success....Naturally that was the happiest moment, but at the same time we feel sad because next day she was going to capital city for training leaving our group....and considering her line of career, it is certain that she would not return to my city anymore......but though we are feeling sad for this, nevertheless we are feeling happy at the same time.

Answer 9

Yes it is ! When my son-in-law got a better job offer of course they had to move to the new town . They had lived 2 miles from me since being married. Now I have to drive four hours to see her.No more morning coffee.(tears) But the job was a lot better pay and better opportunity . (Happy for them) It's all part of life -You just take the bad with the good and go on. And yes you are normal.

Answer 10

Yes.
I feel happy when I think about the good times I had with my children Benjamin and Natasha, yet sad because we lost them.