My baby brother just got deployed to Iraq for the second time. While he was home he met a girl and they got engaged. He is leaving for Iraq in early December and they plan on getting hitched before he leaves. I was just now at the store and I saw her getting out of a car. When I looked to see who was in the car it was a guy. It could have been a friend or cousin or something like that so I have no intention of shooting my mouth off about her being a cheater without any evidence. How (if at all) should I go about telling him to check it out or that I saw what I saw? I love him very much and don't want to see him hurt. I have met her once and she seems like a total sweetheart....but the heart can indeed be deceitful above all things.
2006-11-14 11:18:53 · 8 answers · asked by B. CuzICan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to confront her...if your bro is still in Iraq, that kind of news will be terrible for him...let her knwo that you are onto her...shoot, if they are engaged she is such an a*ss...she needs a butt whoopin"...i'm on my way !!
2006-11-14 11:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by shasta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not jump the gun. I would come out and ask her. Tell her that you do not want your brother hurt and if you find out any different you will tell your brother. If she is honest and cares for your brother she will tell you. If you jump the gun and find out it was family you might feel bad that the relationship ended. If you have money hire an investigator before you shoot off your mouth. If in the end she is cheating I would tell. Do it before they get married. If she cheats now she will cheat when she is married. You seem like your in a dilemma. I hope things work out for the best. It's good to see a brother like you. :) Being a big sibling never changes even when your grown.
2006-11-14 11:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitly in a tough spot. But i think before it can cause problems, you might want to investigate or even ask her if she is seeing anyone else on the side. And really look hard to see if she acts like she lying to you Because that's your brother and he is probably everything to you. Something does need to happen because marriage is a serious thing and i would want to know if my spouse was cheating on me. And also just think how mad your brother would be if he knew that yu knew all this and didn't tell him. So it's a tough one. So, i think you need to confront her and then tell your brother soon so that he doesn't make a big mistake and marries her. Good Luck!!
2006-11-14 11:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by I love my kids! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could a guy even sleep along with his brothers fiance? not if he's a actual guy who has any admire for his brother. i wish he does tell him. Then he would be attentive to what variety of a woman he's definitely marrying, and consistent with possibility think of two times approximately it.
2016-10-17 07:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her first, just to be sure that it was a guy she was cheating with. If you see him with her, and they are holding hands, etc. thats a flag.
2006-11-14 11:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your best bet is to ask her who the guy is. After that, listen to what she says, and you'll know what you need to do from there. Best of luck!
2006-11-14 11:23:09 · answer #6 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her what you saw first. be sure that it wasn't a brother or something like that, you don't want to be responsible for breaking up their relationship.
2006-11-14 11:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it first, may have been a family member or co-worker or even just a friend
2006-11-14 11:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋