My husband and I spend a lot of our social time with his siblings. The one's we spend most of our time with are either just about to get married or don't have any kids yet. They all enjoy spending time with us and our three girls, because they want kids themselves. But I often find myself jealous of their freedom and their new relationships. And it bugs me that we aren't like we were when we were first together anymore, since we hardly have alone time without kids and my husband never treats me special anymore. I kind of wish now that we would have waited to have kids until all of them do. Mostly so that we could do all of the activities and go on dates with them, without our kids. But also because I see them travelling and going to school and having good careers, and we missed out on those things. Is it normal to have these feelings? Is there any way to make me feel better? Don't get me wrong, I love my kids and we do have some friends with kids that we enjoy time with.
2006-11-14 10:52:37 · 3 answers · asked by mommyem 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are absolutely normal. Think about this, do you feel that the newlyweds or childless relatives feel a certain way as well? Don't you think they wish they had your life with children? Some do, that's why they want to be around your family. If your husband isn't treating you special like before, then you need to address the issue with him. Try getting a babysitter and invite your husband out on a date. You never know, he may be feeling the same way you do.
2006-11-14 11:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by KCATP 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Mommyem those same friends that have waited to have children will feel the same jealousy for you once your little ones have grown and are capable of being left on their own etc. You and your husband will be doing the things like traveling etc. while they are tied down at home with their children. Life works in mysterious ways. It's very normal to feel pangs of jealousy or resentment even when looking at the other side. But your life sounds pretty good and if you were to 100% honest with yourself I bet you wouldn't trade a minute for their lives if it meant having to give up what you have now. Be grateful that you have three special kids and that you will be through all the joys of parenting while your friends are still watching theirs grow. Have a happy live.
2006-11-14 11:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are normal. Every body does the old what if? You and your husband need to have some of those relatives babysit for a few days, so you and him can be alone, go out and enjoy each other and just reconnect. You will feel better, I promise.. Good Luck....
2006-11-14 10:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by P-Nut 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋