My hubby has been gone 7 days and was supposed to come home today. I just found out that he may not be coming home. How do you deal with your husband being gone all of the time, Do you have any suggestions on how to make being lonely easier??
2006-11-14 10:49:43 · 8 answers · asked by Easter Bunny 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as dumb as it may sound i got a puppy , and it works so far
2006-11-14 10:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by mari 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband retired after being a truck driver for 30 years. It was hard to get used to him being home...we both had some adjustments to make!! lol
I had a full time job and our daughter to care for while he was on the road. I was fortunate enough to have several close friends, and our house was where daughter's friends enjoyed hanging out, so I always felt like I had a full plate!
Also, I had (and have) absolute trust in my husband and didn't worry about what he was doing while on the road. (Except was he sleeping enough and eating right and how was the weather etc!)
I have several hobbies, read a lot, and we have always had dogs, cats, fish, and other assorted various critters. So I was seldom lonely. Of course, I missed him sometimes, but I have always needed some alone time, so it worked out great!
Maybe you could take up a new hobby or activity. Take a class you're interested in at the local college? Volunteer at a homeless shelter, school or nursing home? Adopt a shelter dog or cat?
Good luck to you!
2006-11-14 19:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by Ara57 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it isn't my husband who leaves (it's my father) i still know what you are going through. My dad would be out of the country for 6 months at a time, working in the North Sea. My mother was lonely in the beginning, but she started going to a book club, and as me and my sister started adjusting to life in another country and joining in activities, she became involved with those things to. She is currently in a book club, the PTA, the local arts club and a throws Mary Kay parties every now and then. She found friends and started a life of her own, not depending on my father to fill her life. My parents are in a very loving relationship, and although it is a long distance one, they trust and love each other enough to make it work.
If I were you, I would research your interests and see if there are any clubs or societies in your area. They are a great way to make friends. And though I understand that nothing can fill the void in your heart made by your husbands absence, these things can make it a little less expansive.
2006-11-14 18:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lachesis 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a matter of fact you can get very use to not having them around. It may take you some time to get into a routine, but once you do the problem will be..how do I handle having him around all the time. Learn to enjoy being by yourself because it won't be that way forever. Good Luck!!
2006-11-14 18:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can only say that you have to make your on life. I grew up with my dad that worked out of town and for some weird reason I end up with a man that works out of town all the time . I have learn to just do what has to be done and go on. yes I get lonely and tired of being by myself but I find ways to keep busy and go out and do things by myself or call a friend and we go out. I know it is hard sometimes but you will probably really never get used to it. It is something you do if the man loves his job and you love him. Just find yourself some things to do. If you have kids I know it gets ruff but you can do it make sure he calls you at night that helps. Good luck done this for a while
2006-11-14 19:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by liza 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well my husband been gone 2 times to iraq for a year be thankful it is for a couple of days! time apart making everything stronger! Makes your bond even tighther
2006-11-14 18:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by God's chosen 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I was with my ex, he travel quite a bit. I kept busy by working, spending time with friends and my son. It really wasn't so bad. Just try to keep busy.
2006-11-14 19:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Rampant Rabbit Google it ENJOY
2006-11-14 19:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋