I fear losing her?

Question

What do you do when everything is against you? What do you do when you do your best, and your best isn’t good enough? What do you do when you do more than your best, you do everything right and you still get hurt? What do you do when you love someone so much, you care about them so much, and the two of you are so good together that everyone around you knows it, but her parents want to rip you apart because you are of two different races? What do you do with so much pain? I can’t tell her my pain because it hurts her. They hurt her, I can’t do it too. Every tear she sheds is a spear through my heart. What do you do when you fear losing the one person you love so much and care so much about? What do you do when the person you love fears standing up for you? What do you do when the person you will do anything for is so scared that she can’t stand up for the two of you? I sit here in tears in a desolate place reaching out to the internet community, because I have no one left to

...left to turn to. I have never felt so helpless. A disability is a state that prevents a person from something. Can skin color be a disability if it prevents you from getting your love? I love her so much, but I fear losing her because she can’t face her father regarding this. I hurt everywhere and fear losing her. Please help. I am in extreme pain and will appreciate any comfort. Please save the sarcasm since I’ve received plenty of those.

I spoke with the father the other night when she broke down. He told me not to get close to her. He told me to let her graduate and then they will see. Translation: let her graduate and move back down there to the city she is from so that they can do a number on her, and since I won't be around that means it's over. She is Armenian by the way, and I am perisan. Ofcourse both of us are "whitewashed".

Answer 1

love will find a way. for now, you might have to break up, but eventually her parents won't be there and you will be free to make your own decisions with each other.

if you love something, let it go. if it's meant to be, it will return.

Answer 2

It is difficult when the person you love will not stand up for you...it is very painful. You need to do some soul searching and ask what you are willing to deal with. I am assuming that you are young, you have a long life. You may need to chalk this one up to one of those wonderful things that happend will in school and hold it as a special memory and let time take it where ever it may go. Maybe at some point, she will gain some strength and she will come back to you. Isnt that something to dream about?

Answer 3

Wow, the only thing I can suggest is to take it slow. She might eventually build up the courage to stand up for both of you, but she has to get over her fear first. She must be very close to her family? And afraid to lose them. Maybe she thinks that she will not be accepted by her family if she stands up for your relationship. This doesn't mean she loves you any less, she's just scared. Sit her down and tell her how you feel. It just depends how far you two are willing to go for eachother. Can you wait if she needs time to make a decision? She needs to realize that she needs to live for herself and not her parents. Best of Luck. You sound like a sweet person anyone would love to have that sort of partner :)

Answer 4

Well I have gone through some of this that is I loved my husband so much but he would not stand up for me when it came to his family I was pretty much on my own.

As it comes to races and such I would just tell her parents that you love her and that she loves you and that she is scared of her parents that she can not talk to them. but this is how she feels. I think it is said that so many children are scared of their parents that they cant come to them when they need to. You other option would be to skip pack up leave. then you guys can be together.

Answer 5

the two of you have to stand up for each other, don't let her parents come between you, but she has to be strong to stand up to her parents,she feels she caught in the middle,but if she loves you she will stand up for you,if she doesn't ,then you should move on, I know you love her,but she taking you on an emotional roller coaster
good luck

Answer 6

Sounds like she does not respect you. It also sounds like time for you to be concerned about YOU.

Move on. Find someone worthy of YOU and enjoy life.

Answer 7

well,,,, in your case it's the race,,,,but it happens all the time with the same race (I hope this makes you feel better)...
Put aside the race... and try to think clearly.
YOu already done something?
stay positive.