So.. sometimes I ask dumb questions (yeah I did 2 days ago...) or I'll do something not quite right or someone will just want to offer some healthy criticism so I can do better. And I won't get angry, I'll beat myself up! I want everything I do to be right, and I don't want to make people think I'm dumb or hard-headed. How can I take criticism better?
2006-11-14 10:35:27 · 4 answers · asked by Tall&Lovely 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Let me say something to you that I wish I could tell you I thought up myself, but I didn't. It was something a very very wise person once said...... . Nobody EVER got something right, who hadn't got it wrong a few times first. What I will say that did come from me, is this: The people who have always ended up being the most admired in this world, are the ones who struggled and struggled with something for a long time, and nobody believed in them , and they were mocked, and made fun of, and laughed at, or insulted. But they never quit They just KNEW somehow, that sooner or later this thing they were working so hard on, was going to come right in the end.
It doesn't matter if you never "invent the wheel" or find some fantastic new thing that will make you a ton of money. It's just the same for a person who simply keeps on trying to be better at this business we call "living". My dad used to call it stickwithitness" he talked about it so much when I was young, that in the end, every time I duffed something up, or I just wanted to quit, I could hear my dad say that word "Stickwithitness"- and that was enough to make me grin, and think to myself "Oooohkaaaaay Dad, watch this...." Then I'd just keep on going.
So my advice is this... any time anybody laughs at you or makes fun of you for "getting it wrong".... screwing it up. Just smile to yourself, and be encouraged to keep right on going, because, you see, people who mock others, usually do it because they never had what it takes to "stickwithit" and what they really want is for YOU to fail so they don't feel so much alone.
2006-11-14 10:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that you're human and it's okay to be imperfect. It doesn't matter if anyone else thinks you're "dumb" or "hard-headed", but it means everything if you think those things about yourself. And it's really not good to put yourself down.
I used to be a lot like you and have a hard time taking criticism. I felt that if I wasn't right, I was evil. And if someone pointed it out, no matter how tactful they were, they were calling me stupid and a downright bad person. It took a lot of postiive reinforcements from myself to stop thinking that way.
I would suggest staying around people who will reinforce that you are a good and smart person. If someone calls you stupid, don't even acknowledge that person again. They're not worth your time.
2006-11-14 18:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak the truth in love and to help the person there is a BIG difference between speaking your mind and undermining (belittling) someone.
2006-11-14 18:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop taking yourself so seriously, to begin with
self deprecating humor is refreshing to you and others
it's healthier to laugh at yourself than others
everybody says and does dumb things, don't feel bad, welcome to the human race!
God bless you
2006-11-14 18:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by whacky doodler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋