Stand in front of the mirror for like an hr and just like talk yourself down? Like just stand there and belittle yourself. Every mornign no matter where I am going I will stand in front of the mirror obsessing over my face, my clothes, and my figure. When I do finally tear myself away I feel totally drained and crappy. Tell me im not the only one!
2006-11-14 10:33:43 · 21 answers · asked by Aphrodite 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
From your picture you look very pretty.
I'm no expert, but I have an idea.. do you think it would be possible for you to get rid of the mirror for a while? Take it down and hide it in a closet facing the other way? Maybe it would do you some good to try to just throw some clothes on one morning, do your hair a very fix-free way, put on no make-up, and walk out the door... try out this kind of life for a day, see what you think of yourself inside without worrying about the outside... Take a look around you and look at the beautiful variety of shapes, sizes, colors, and looks of all of the people around you... Think about which ones you find beautiful and which ones you don't and why. Then, take another look at the ones you don't find beautiful and see if you can find beauty in their faces and in their looks in how they carry themselves or in what they are doing.
There is a book that I love. It's called "Portraits" and that is all that it is. It is a small book, can be found in the Photography/Art section of Barnes N Nobles and probably other bookstores. The book is filled with photographs of people all interesting or beautiful in their own way for who they are, where they are from, what they are doing at the moment. Maybe looking at it and at other people could give you some perspective on who you are, where you are from, where you are now, what you do each day, and how other people in the world perceive you (never as bad as people perceives themselves).
I used to go to church, and I remember once, the priest saying that we all see ourselves as we think others see us (not as others actually do see us, but how we THINK they see us). It's an interesting idea, but maybe it would do you some good to try to open that perspective and see yourself through some other peoples eyes, rather than through how you think they see you...
Then, in a certain class I am taking, one of our professors told us that it is everyone else's job to tell us how poorly we are doing, to tell us just how bad we look, how untintelligent we are, and how much we just plain s*ck. So, let everyone else do that. Never do that to yourself!
2006-11-14 13:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by River 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are describing is only a somewhat more extreme version of the common putdowns most people give themself now and then; you sound like you have elevated a bad habit to the level of self-destructive art form. For the benefit of your mental health, this needs to end.
We construct our world by what we think. Thinking involves images, self-talking & feeling(thoughts lodged in the body) When not deliberately guided through informed, conscious choice to positive thoughts, the mind drifts, and this drifting can be in any direction; but the thought continues as long as we are alive. So without choosing to direct your thoughts in a positive direction, your thoughts have drifted into a negative & harmful space in which you sabatage your day, waste your time & fill your mind with irrational & unfair criticism. You can do better than this, and you will be glad you did. Please seek professional help.
If you choose not to seek professional help, what must happen if you do not want this negativity to degrade any further is that this behavior must be interupted - no standing in front of the mirror for more than a passing glance - that's all people give anyone else anyway. No self assessment! Better to walk out the door with your belt crooked or two socks of different colors! What will happen? Nothing! You might even start a new fashion trend with young people!
Most of the time we are our own worse enemy & our own worse critic. Please let yourself accept whatever you have on the outside & try to learn about the real beauty that exists inside.
It's very important.
Good Luck!
;-)
2006-11-14 11:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by WikiJo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't do that in front of the mirror, and I don't talk out loud, but I do belittle myself with constant negative thoughts all day. I'm sure we all do. So no, you are not the only one. But you do need to do something about it. Talk to a close friend or family member (or therapist if you have to) and tell them you are doing this and need help. Do things that will make you feel better -- buy new clothes, wear makeup, go work out, but do them because you want to look BETTER not because there is anything "wrong" with you. There isn't!
2006-11-14 10:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yea,I do. It's hard when people around you..just sit there and talk you down. I have this thing..one of my eyes..is slightly crossed. I mean,no big deal right? Wrong. I have been picked on because of it my whole life,so I have pretty much obsessed over it my entire life. I only look at the camera a certain way so you can't see it. Also,my smile,I hate how I look when I smile..so I really..don't smile. I feel your pain..it's hard. But from looking at your picture,I honestly don't know why you would talk yourself down,you are very pretty,and seriously..why?
2006-11-14 10:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
um, u look fine to me.
matter fact i know people that have it worse than you.
sure a little bit of that is fine, cuz when someone compliments you, u feel great. Know what i mean? like no one can get u down any further.
You gotta accept who you are, and if others dont like it, then oh well, their loss. Keep your head up, you are not alone there are billions of people on this earth, not likely u are the only one. I am still trying to find out who i am and trying to accept me for me. Starting to not care what others say about me. Its going to take a while but ill do it
2006-11-14 11:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people, especially women, mentally beat themselves up over things. Everyone feels that sometimes they just don't make the grade.
The truth is that by an large a vast majority of people are good and worthy and yes this means you too.
You must talk to a friend or relative or a counselor and help yourself get out of this mental bad habit.
take care and good luck
2006-11-14 10:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by zigzag 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you wish extra 'blank and tidy' matters to do, then you definately would wash different flooring, dirt and varnish, blank home windows, have a difference round with furnishings, prepare matters otherwise, form via your kitchen and so forth Or some thing a laugh, move out and retailer until you drop!
2016-09-01 12:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, its not normal or common to stand in front of the mirror for an hour,, but im sure your not the only one, try not to belittle yourself, though we all tend to do that, if your young , enjoy your youth,,,,,, i know i put myself down when young, especially in my teens and twenties, wow i wish i could have that skin and body now ,,, if your feeling like this, you need help, to learn to accept yourself,,,, look in the phone book for counseling, or your area mental health society,, dont take drugs (mental health ones) though,,, often given by psycharitrist
2006-11-14 10:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tsk! Tsk! Tsk! Okay, here is a new exercise for you. You are to stand in front of the mirror from now on and say ," I am a beautiful person and intelligent too. Anyone who meets me is a lucky person". Now, you stop cutting yourself down.
2006-11-14 10:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, not in front of the mirror though. For me its not about looks (i'm resigned to that) its always things i'v not achieved, procrastinated over, missed opportunities, friends not cared for, that same stupid mistake made again and again, failure, failure, failure, failure. I have to catch myself doing it and pull out before getting to caught up in the mood, but am only successful at that half the time. Sometimes it just helps to know that its all in my head and everything will be better later.
2006-11-14 10:50:37 · answer #10 · answered by benj 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋