So if you are young like 13-16 is being gay really wrong and how will it affect someones life. Should they wait to come out until they are ready to find "someone" (the one)??
2006-11-14 10:29:51 · 13 answers · asked by Nonya B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Definitely not
gay: is just like being straight.... except not. Why is it wrong? So the guy doesn't like boobs and he'd rather something he is familiar with. I think that being gay is fine especially because now being different is fine. People who wear different clothes aren't shunned, people who have long hair aren't hated... so whyh are gay people... being gay is fine. don't worry about when you do it... ask people close to you about it....
2006-11-14 12:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by movie guru, tv master 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being gay isn't wrong in my book. The people who think it is wrong are either homophobic, right-wing religious people, or believe homosexuality to be unnatural.
How will if affect your life? Well, there are many negative ways- you may get discriminated against, be the recipient of prejudice, you may be in more physical danger, you may (and I stress may) be exposed to more diseases, you may have some difficulty with certain people. But mostly, nothing. Your life can be exactly the same except for the fact that you like the same sex.
In my opinion, you shouldn't wait to come out until you're ready to find "the one", because our society isn't made to operate like that. It's heteronormative and people assume that if you aren't gay, you're straight. Therefore, while it makes a lot of sense to keep your sexuality private (I mean, it is a private thing), people will feel you lied to them, will continue to treat you as straight (setting you up with the opposite sex, etc.), and may think you're going through a 'phase' (instead of this being something you've felt for a long time. They'll probably still think it a phase, but I suggest coming out as long as you feel safe doing so.
Good luck.
2006-11-14 11:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people say no, religious people say yes, and i'm one of those few people who say yes. Yeah, fine, so I don't like homosexuality or anything that isn't straight, but it doesn't mean I can't like the person. I just don't agree w/ the lifestyle. So yeah, in my opinion, it IS wrong. That's too young, and whatever sexual preference anyone has, DON"T HAVE UNDERAGE SEX. Plus, if someone's gay at that age, a lot of people would probably shun him. Some secrets are just better left unsaid, because I'd rather not hear about it.
2006-11-14 11:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by TROLLIN' 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing - NOTHING - inherently wrong with being gay. I tend to think that a person should explore their sexuality (whatever that may be) when they're ready for it, and that 13-16 is a little young perhaps to be dealing with all the consequences of sexual activity. But that's just me. Sex is something that shouldn't be taken lightly, in my mind, because it's very intimate and special and GREAT, and you should have it when you want to, when you're sure about what you want and with whom.
But you don't need to be having sex to be gay, it's about who you're attracted to, who you ARE inside. It would be possible (but perhaps unlucky) to be gay and never to have sex at all. If you are, you are: embrace that part of yourself.
Society sometimes makes things difficult for gay men and women, but this doesn't make being gay wrong. It just means that society sometimes has really twisted perceptions as to what is socially acceptable. Consensual sex between adults harms noone, and it's my opinion that society has no right to legislate against it.
Coming out should happen when the person is ready, and not before. For some people that's early, some later, some never. But it's really that person's decision, and the decision may be made by factors such as the presence or lack of a supportive family, friends, teachers. It's always scary. But it's always worth it. Being yourself is important.
The person shouldn't do anything that puts them at risk... but they should know in their hearts that there is NOTHING wrong with being the way that they are.
Sometimes Christian groups are against gay people. But if you believe in God, then you MUST believe that God created everyone for His own purposes. Gay, straight, short, tall, all races, grumpy, happy, intelligent, stupid... and even liberal or bigoted. Who can explain those purposes? Certainly not me! I guess my point is, being gay is something to be proud of. The extent to which one shares that pride with others is up to the person.
My tendency would be towards coming out for yourself. Own who you are without shame or fear. Then when you find someone.. (the one, or one of the ones) ... you can introduce that person to your family and friends without fear or embarrassment (on either side.)
2006-11-14 10:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Greta B 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A person should come out when they feel emotionally ready. There is nothing wrong with being gay but some peoples perceptions of gay and lesbianism is wrong. These people are misguided by their own beliefs and insecurities.
2006-11-14 10:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
there is nothing wrong at all with being gay...it's genetic...we are born gay/lesbian/bi/straight. only ignorant bigots will say that it's wrong. they are afraid/don't understand anyone/anything that is different.
first of all, don't come out until YOU are comfortable with yourself, and YOU are ready.
second, I wouldn't advise anyone, gay or straight, to have sex at such a young age. not until you are older and can fully accept that responsibility should you consider that.
2006-11-14 14:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People know they are gay when they were born. Many people just have this feeling that they are not like other "straight" people. What ever it may be, its not wrong for being gay. Being gay is natural and just cuz some people frown upon it doesn't mean its wrong. people have their own beliefs.
2006-11-14 10:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
very!
just picture this,
you're a man, but beleived being a woman?
you're a man and being screwed by another man?
you're a man by what! accident?
and they ask us to beleive them?
and others justifies them, because they says they're staight?
(I had these one answer from similar question)
and just imagine when you recruit these kind of people in the army, and engage them in shooting with the enemy!
Look this has nothing to do with the machismo, being gay could be just an excuse...
please! enough of justifications...
2006-11-14 10:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with being Gay. Nothing whatsoever.
2006-11-14 10:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by destincole 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's NOT wrong to be gay.
I would advise you to avoid any sexual activity til you are 18, but I'd advise the same to NON gay people.
What's wrong is GAY BASHING!!
2006-11-14 10:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋