I'm trying to get a honest view here. The day before, my boyfriend
told me he was going to take me out. He didn't tell me what time, he just said he was giving me the heads up and he would call me.
That morning, he was knocking on my door and I woke up stunned. He said he had called me but I didn't answer. I didn't hear the phone ring. He was really really mad at me. Is the angier justified. I had my clothes ironed and stuff, I feel so bad, but don't understand why he got so mad. Doesn't everyone make mistakes, he lives thirty minutes away and I was expecting his call to wake me up. I he overreacting, when he came I said "i'll be ready in a few minutes" and I rushed to get ready. Is this something that he is justfied getting very angry with?
2006-11-14 10:29:15 · 23 answers · asked by Muse 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first of all you didn't have any idea what time he was comming, and he should of tried calling more then once. he should of gave you a time frame like i'll be there between 8-10 so you could of been ready and set your alarm, so it;s his fault.....
2006-11-14 10:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by juicy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No he was not justified at all.
If he had told you that you were going to something specific and you had to be on time and then when he called he couldn't wake you up he may react to that because there was no way you would not be late. But being real mad is not justified.
If he did not make that clear then he is at fault and he should apologies to you for being mad.
Either way. Don't worry about it. We are not boyfriend/girlfriend just so that we can do everything the other wants. This may be the first time you see his true colors. Pay attention you may get more of this down the road. if you do it's time for another boyfriend.
2006-11-14 18:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he should have known not to show up...you didn't answer his call. He should have given you a rough estimate of time, so you wouldn't be wasting your whole day waiting around for him. Nothing more irritating than that.
So, I would say no, his anger is not justified. BUT, I must also say that you need a louder ring if you expect a phone call to wake you up.
Tell him to calm down, you still went out. Were you late for something? If not, then he needs to just chill out a bit!
2006-11-14 18:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your track record. Do you do stuff like this often, or are you normally really reliable and prompt? If you have done this to him more than once, maybe his anger is justified because it gives him the impression that he's not that important to you. However, if this is the only time you've ever been running a little late for plans he made, he needs to chill out!! Like you said, you had all your stuff ready, and for some reason, you just didn't hear the phone, so it's not like you intentionally snubbed him. If he's going to overreact like that about every little mistake you make, you might want to get yourself a new boyfriend.
2006-11-14 18:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No. He's overreacting. I feel the situation could've been handled in a more mature way. He's making a big deal over nothing at all.
The only thing I see wrong here is a lack of proper communication between the two of you.
2006-11-14 18:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends what time it was you got out of bed. I don't think its a big deal, because you didn't hear the phone ring. Maybe he is a little disappointed, because it seems like you were not excited about his plans otherwise you would have been up.
2006-11-14 18:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no he is not justified in getting angry, he could have given you the heads up the night before and you could have set your alarm. and been ready and waiting for him, He was being unreasonable and you best look at this character flaw before you proceed any further
2006-11-14 18:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding me its his fault for not calling first don't let this jerk push you around most doctors say you need a good nights rest 4 out 5 anyway lol but don't get all upset give him the silent treatment for a day he will come around good luck and be your own person
2006-11-14 18:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by J C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the problem and why he is mad. You were pretty much ready. He didn't tell what time and you can read minds(or can you). I think he overreacted
2006-11-14 18:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't get very angry with you. Upset, yes. If I was him, I would've kept calling until you picked up. But maybe he did that to. Figure out something to make it up to him.
2006-11-14 18:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋