Is my hubby depressed?

Question

Every few months my hubby goes into a major sulk. He doesn't speak to me for sometimes days on end. When he does talk again, he says he doesnt know what was wrong. Over the past few weeks he has got a lot worse. He sleeps constantly, only getting up to eat and go to work, wears the sames clothes for days and is always so grumpy. I asked him if he thought he might be depressed but he said no. I hate living with him like this and think our kids have a right to a happy home. What do I do?

sorry should have mentioned, he works night shift, 4 nights a weeks, 12 hour shifts, we have no money worries and he says he still loves me. our sex life if currently non existant, his choice, says he is just never in the mood. help

Answer 1

He sounds like he has depression or could be somthing else. tell him to go to see a doctor.

Answer 2

It is clear that your husband is depressed, having suffered from depression up until I was 34 years old. I would encourge him to see the doctor and attend the visit with him. He is likely going to be as unmotivated to see the doctor as he is in the rest of his life. Approach him out of love and deep concern. Be kind and gentle, but be persistant and unrelenting. Tell him that his health has a direct correlation on the health and well being of the family. Tell him that many people suffer from depression, its' a completely normal thing and nothing to be ashamed of. It isn't an indication that he is weak, but he will feel so much better if he gets the help he needs.

Answer 3

It most certainly does sound like depression. Also could be symtomatic of a physical or neurological ailment. You MUST get him to the doctor for consultation. No matter what, it sounds like there is medical help of some sort needed here. He may be long past being able to help himself or see the problem.
Insist insist insist on a trip to the doctors...if not? Recruit family and friends for an intervention.
You may be not only saving your marriage and happy home, but maybe even his life.

Answer 4

Clinical depression is a state of intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive to an individual's social functioning and/or activities of daily living.
The following are common symptoms of the depression. He needs to manifest only 5 of them to be diagnosed.
Feelings of overwhelming sadness and/or fear, or the seeming inability to feel emotion (emptiness).
A decrease in the amount of interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, daily activities.
Changing appetite and marked weight gain or loss.
Disturbed sleep patterns, such as insomnia, loss of REM sleep, or excessive sleep (Hypersomnia).
Psychomotor agitation or retardation nearly every day.
Fatigue, mental or physical, also loss of energy.
Intense feelings of guilt, helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness, isolation/loneliness and/or anxiety.
Trouble concentrating, keeping focus or making decisions or a generalized slowing and obtunding of cognition, including memory.
Recurrent thoughts of death (not just fear of dying), desire to just "lay down and die" or "stop breathing", recurrent suicidal ideation without a specific plan, or a suicide attempt or a specific plan for committing suicide.
Feeling and/or fear of being abandoned by those close to one.
It is serious decease and you should get him medical help.

Answer 5

yes he could have a deficiency too you should get him checked by a doctor he could also have mood swings and there are pills for that . he can live a normal productive life with the right help and meds. talk to your doctor about what your seeing in him and she will advise you of the next steps he will be thankful too he must hate feeling this way but yet feels trapped at the same time

good luck

Answer 6

hOW OLD IS YOUR HUSBAND HE MAYBE GOING THROUGH the change. My husband acts like that some times but he has a stressful job and I 'am a stay home mom. That means one income can be hard on the relationship at times. It could be many reasons I may need more info. Just pray and keeping talking to people that you don't know you can talk honestly and open without a stranger judging you and your husband. God bless you stay hopeful.

Answer 7

The signs of depressions seem very obvious. Trouble with this is that most sufferers don't see that they have a problem and so refuse treatment. Have a heart-to-heart with your husband and if you can't bring yourself to talk to him, write a letter to him telling him your concern. Reassure him of your love and urge him to get help. It can be put right.

I'm shocked so many people suggest leaving him without trying to seek medical help first. How would you like it if your spouse or partner leave you at the first sign of depression?

Answer 8

Yeah, he's got some sort of depression cycle thing going. He needs to go to a doctor and get his blood work done, then to a shrink if the doc don't find anything.

If he cries at stupid movies like cartoons, then that is a big sign too.

Answer 9

Maybe he is pining for someone else but is stuck with you for the sake of the children. He might be spending his time acting around you but at certain times he finds it to hard to act and goes into a semi depression. To help him you can either give him time to get over the other person or you can give him a divorce.

Answer 10

you need to talk to him ,sit him down and let him know that you love him and want to help him out tell him what hes doing maybe he doesn't even know hes acting this way ........it could be depression or tied of his every day routine maybe he needs some alone time with you a night alone or a dinner out talking is the way to go if he doesn't want to do anything about it then get a little more hard on him until he lets you help or gets help

Answer 11

Whoa, it does sound like he's depressed. You could suggest for him to go see a medical professional; perhaps you can call up your family doctor for advice. Treatments are available - but, unfortunately, your husband has to acknowledge the problem himself before anything can be done to help.