I miss u so much!I have been thinking about you all day! Can i tell you something that will stay between u and I?Ok, here goes, I am so scared about getting married.I never thought i would be, but i am.Its just that everytime we fight I just keep thinkin, god we are going to be having this same fight forever and ever!That is so scary! And everytime we fight i think of u.I think about how much fun i have always had with u, and how we probably wouldnt fight like this.What if i am not supposed to marry him.And even if i do marry him, i think that i will always wonder what life would have been like if i was with u.I hate this.You prob dont even feel the same way about me anymore.I just have never had the connection that we have even when we are thousands of miles apart talking on the phone.I dont know who to talk to about this except u.I think that i Love u, I have always loved u.But i have never let myself love u.now i am here unable to love u and its all i can think about.What do I do???
2006-11-14 09:52:50 · 11 answers · asked by Lightchaser 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She sounds very immature emotionally. Don't act on anything she says...she'll probably change her mind shortly. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-11-14 10:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) The others are right, I don't think she'd be excited that you posted the email on Yahoo Answers
B) She needs to decide whether she wants to marry the guy she is planning on marrying independently of you. - does she just have cold feet? -or is he really not the one for her?
C) If she doesn't marry him you should be careful about getting into a serious relationship with her too quickly, because apparently she isn't sure yet what she wants in a man and she'll need to figure that out before she can know whether you are a good match or not.
Since she's asking you what to do, I would tell her to look at her relationship with her fiancee and ask herself why she wanted to marry him in the first place, if those reasons are still there, and maybe she should talk to a closer female friend or family member who isn't romantically interested in her for their advice.
2006-11-14 20:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by River 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask her why and how she decided she wanted to marry this man and you also have to consider that it is very normal before getting married to wonder if you're doing the right thing often refferred to as "cold feet".This may just be fear or maybe you two really do have a chance and she doesn't want to regret never finding out if you were the one.
2006-11-14 18:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by nashiranickel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming she's marrying someone else but has these feelings for you? Do you feel the same way? Take it from someone who got married when they didn't love that person, she does not need to marry this man. She will be miserable. I'm not sure how you should handle it unless you have the same feelings but she does need to talk to someone about the feelings she is having about marrying this guy. Maybe you should just tell her she really needs to think about weither she should marry him and really do some "soul searching" before she walks down that isle. If you 2 do get together TAKE IT SLOW!
2006-11-14 18:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by Crazy 8 Ranch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a girl I am about to marry only feels comfortable communicating her feelings to mi via email, I would be worried about that more than anything, first thing in a relationship is communication, open and honest.
2006-11-14 18:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful it could be a case of - I want you but I can't have you and when she gets you she won't want you (if that makes any sense)!! I can't think of the exact way to put it I am stuck on stupid lol - but anyway if she loves you really loves you she won't get married to the man she doesn't love. Plain and simple. You have to figure out what you feel first and foremost. Good luck.
2006-11-14 17:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I can say is...you just betrayed her trust so she obviously has reason to be worried about marrying you. It says right there in her note....."that will stay between u and I" and you go and post it on the worldwide web. How sweet! I am sure she would not think so.
2006-11-14 17:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is in love with you and wants to know how you feel about her and depending on that, she will decide whether or not to marry that other guy.
2006-11-14 18:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is confused; she doesn't know how she feels. While I'm sure she cares for you, I don't think it's in a romantic way.
My best advice is to give her space; she needs to figure out what she wants.
2006-11-14 17:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by Lyllian Fayleen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she wants to use you as an excuse not to marry the other fella. You are her scapegoat and nothing more. Clearly she is not mature enough to marry anyone. I'd steer clear of her.
2006-11-14 17:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋