I may have Hepatocellular is a liver cancer. I am married with a family for nine year but we are seperated she does't under stand that i could die from this at anytime all i have ask of her is to help me thru this and be there and all she has told me was what about the past of the hurt i have put her thru. People make mistakes that much i do no. I just want to spend as much time that i can with my family she is being selfish and rotten there is another man in the picture could he be the blame of her being as cold as she is.
2006-11-14 09:47:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you lied to her in the past then she may not believe you, show her medical records and prove you have the cancer.
It is hard for people to get past hurt in their lives and to forgive so you have to give her time, but you also have to think about if you do die and then you leave her there and she has fallen back in love with you all over again, do you want to put her through that?
Focus on your children, they are the ones that will miss you the most.
2006-11-14 09:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people here are being way too mean to you. We all make mistakes and when we come forward about them we all deserve to be forgiven. Tell her the truth. Tell her that you are dying from the cancer. Apologize for hurt that you caused her and the family in the past. Explain that you want to spend time with the family before you go... and if not with her and her new beau you would like to spend time with the children. It sounds like she is still hurt from the past, could the situation benefit from you asking her if there is anything left that she feels she needs to tell you about how things that you did made her feel? Don't worry about being selfish.. everyone is selfish at points during their lives... we wouldn't ever make it if we weren't. Just explain to her the whole situation, ask her forgiveness, depending on the ages of the children, they can make up their own minds as to whether they see you or not. Although I hope for everyone's sake they will let you back into the family for the time that you have left. Take care...
2006-11-14 21:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. I feel for you and understand your feelings and you have every right to want to be with your children. However you need to understand that it seems your wife is moving on. I am sure that she feels bad for you but she is probably concerned you want to use it as a way to get back into her life. I do not know why you are seperated but obviously your wife feels very hurt and bitter and she can't put those feelings aside .You need to make arrangements to spend quality time with your family without making her feel you expect anything from her she dosnt owe you her support or love but hopefully as a decent person she will agree to at least be your friend through this trying time. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-11-14 17:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand the loved ones of the ill are affected as well, only in a different way. Who can say what is right or wrong in the reaction of those who are close to the ill person. If given a choice would you want to be the one who must give up their life to help the ill loved one knowing they are going to die. Maybe the coldness you feel from her is way she is coping.
2006-11-14 19:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but she doesn't "owe" you anything, and has the right to distance herself from you. You chose to marry this woman to begin with, perhaps you should stop blaming her for not catering to your wishes, and take your share of responsibility for choosing a spouse who ultimately abandoned you. Find other people in your life to rely on, former spouses are a poor choice of a friend in many instances.
2006-11-14 17:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a medical condition too, but I don't try and use it to my advantage like you just did.
Just because you now see what is really important in life doesn't mean that you should be automatically forgiven for what you've done. You may have less time than others, but you still have to pay for your mistakes.
2006-11-14 18:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your health - maybe a miracle can happen for you!!
You must have done something very hurtful for her to act that way!! Take your time and stay in touch with her, don't push her away, also rely on your family and friends your going to need help. Please take care of yourself stress like this won't help you. God Bless!!
2006-11-14 17:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your condition, but maybe you should have been thinking this way for a long time prior to this point. Your wife sure thinks so. And you can't take it back now. I hate to say it, but it's too late.
2006-11-14 17:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you, but my honest answer is yes. It sounds like you get family oriented only when you need them, not when they need you. Sorry for being so blunt, but you asked.
2006-11-14 18:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by rhymingron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People DO make mistakes...
And then they face the consequences. I'm sorry, but you have to live with what you did to her, and she owes you nothing.
Sorry!
2006-11-14 17:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋