My wife has been pretty ademate on leaving me this past month. we have been separate this whole time. We have known each other for 6 years and married one year. She is filling the papers and moving back to her home town yet lately keeps saying things like "she doesn't know whats going to happen with us in the future". Is she just keeping me on the back burner or really considering me? I am so confused because I want move on with my life and get over her yet she keeps dropping lines like that lately that get my hopes up. Thoughts?
2006-11-14 09:45:37 · 10 answers · asked by fedup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well woman as a generality dont know what they want or how to feel really. Therefore it would be easy for you to make up their mind for them. What happened why couldnt work things out? Well her is the thing you should do the things that she is asking of you to do. If its reasonable. I am not sure what happened and why you split up but it sounds like petty things that you can probably work out. Try to do things that make her happy and work through everything. Come to compromises thats what life is about is compromises. Just come to conclusion to be together it sounds like she wants you to do what will make her happy so that you can be together because it does sound like she doesnt want to end the marriage but feels like she needs more from you before she would consider coming back. Try it.
2006-11-14 09:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Womans perogative. She sounds more confused then you but thats her choice. She sounds like she really doesnt know what she wants now or in the future. By saying what she is puts you on hold til she decides. You just have to decide whether youre better off with or without her and how long youre willing to wait til she decides. Then what happens if she decides the wrong thing. Just tell her thats fine and dandy and if youre still available when she finally decides then you will decide if you want her back. That will get her to decide really quick if shes afraid of losing you. Love isnt always easy and clear cut as we would like it to be, and sometimes it can be cruel and confusing as hell as in your case, but it is what makes the world go round. Good luck to your future
2006-11-14 09:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced. I think what she means is that she doesn't know if you two will remain contact (friendly) in the future. It's usually best not too unless kids are involved and you two are really strong people. She wants a divorce...seh filed the papers. I know you want to hear something different, but I can't tell you that. Start getting ready for what is to come in the near future with this...it will be terribly hard. Good luck.
2006-11-14 09:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what you are going through....divorce is always hard. hat you really need to do is ask your wife or better yet see if you can get a couple of counselling sessions together. It will help you yo either get closure or heal. Most likely it means that she still has feelings for you but doesn't know how to compartmentalize them - friend, husband, enemy etc. Good luck
2006-11-14 09:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by kimber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She left you because she either did not love you or wanted to be with somebody else. Obviously you would not be remotely amused about the possibility of your spouse having boyfriend, so she lies and rationalize that she can keep you as a spare. So be very careful and set conditions for her return.
2006-11-14 10:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats either her way of letting you down easy (basically giving you hope) or leaving you on the back burner. Forget her. Move on.
2006-11-14 09:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude here is the deal, she is just keeping you on the backburner, drop her and move on, when they ask for a divorce they either have another booty lined up or jsut fell out of love for you drop it
2006-11-14 09:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by wolfchat_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is almost the same thing i am going through. and i told him that i wasn't going to wait for him to make up his mind, if he wanted to be with me he would be with me instead of playing all these mind games. oh, i know i would take him back if he ever wanted to come back, but he doesn't need to know that. let her see that you can be happy without her and see what she does about it. after that you need to make up YOUR mind, do you want to be with her or not?
2006-11-14 09:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go, sounds like she's playing games with u, nobody deserves that you just might be happier when she's gone, maybe not at first but you will let her know she can do what she wants just leave you out of it
2006-11-14 09:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a boyfriend. Don't count on her comming back.
2006-11-14 09:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋