Picture this you're a single mother with a 9yr. and 8mth. old, and you find out that you're 2mos. pregnant what would you do run to the nearest Planned Parenthood for a quick fix or have it and endure the shame and ridicule from your friends and family?
2006-11-14 09:37:20 · 22 answers · asked by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It doesn't matter if you're single, married divorce what ever. CHILDREN ARE NEVER NEVER NEVER A REASON TO BE ASHAMED.
2006-11-14 09:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Shame and Ridicule???? Get better friends, and tell your family to Celebrate! If you are pregnant, consider yourself blessed and save some of your 8 month olds good stuff that's simply outgrown. You have all the necessary items like crib, etc, although you will need a second crib. They will be very close, which is great. The 9 year old may love your 8 month old now, but even loved the little one would soon be left out of the fun. Now there will be another one so close in age. How perfect. Don't go to planned parenthood, they will treat your unborn babe like mold, or something. Get an ultrasound, listen to it's heartbeat, start a skrapbook with the first picture of your CHILD. Best wishes.
2006-11-14 17:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your friends and family would offer only shame and ridicule, you need a better support system. Do go to planned parenthood, but ask them for help with counseling and support. You don't deserve to be treated so badly.
Second, if you're in a relationship with someone, then this burden is not yours to bear alone. Discuss it with him if he might be helpful.
And lastly, I'm afraid you're likely to get a lot of strong opinions on this public forum. The fact that some other poster wants a baby and resents you not wanting yours is not a reason for *you* to give birth if it's not what's right for you. Realize that choosing whether or not to terminate a pregnancy is a big and important decision that no one can answer for you. Thankfully, planned parenthood requires counseling first. This is a good thing.
If, in the end, you feel that you want and can handle another baby, then I wish you all the luck in the world for a healthy pregnancy and baby. Maybe your older child will be a little helpful.
And if you feel that you aren't in a situation in which you can have a baby right now, then I'm glad we live in a society that presents you with other options.
You have to figure out what's right, and try not to feel too judged. It's none of anyone else's business and anyone who condemns you for being pregnant while single isn't worth your time.
Good luck!
2006-11-14 17:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by gowriterotica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely wouldn't go the "quick fix" route. But then again, I'm strongly opposed to abortion. There are far too many people out there that are trying hard to have children and can't and deserve to...I'd maintain the pregnancy and give the child up for adoption.
Also, I'd be sure and ask my doc to have my tubes tied after having this baby...especially if I wasn't wanting to have anymore children. If that option is out, I'd learn how to either abstain or remember to take some form of birth control.
Abortion is NOT a "quick fix"....It's MURDER!
2006-11-14 17:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by "Urban" 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all why would they ridicule you? if they are family and true friends they will support you. I would keep the baby. or at least go through with the pregnancy and if i couldnt afford the next baby then i would concider adoption or find another job to support the new mouth to feed. Good luck... i hope this was a hypothetical question for your sake and if not then may god bless you and your family.
2006-11-14 17:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by scottliz2005 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A quick fix???? Are you kidding me??? A baby is NOT a curse. A baby is a blessing. Period. If your friends and family shame and ridicule you then they don't care for you like they should anyway. In the end you don't have to answer to your friends or family you have to answer to God. Don't take an innocent life so that you can avoid feeling ashamed. It is not that baby's fault. If you feel that you cannot provide for this child, then step up and be a mother and give that baby to someone who can provide a loving healthy home for your child. Please don't take this child's life. There are millions of families that are waiting for a little miracle like your baby to complete their lives.
2006-11-14 17:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Please don't get a "quick fix" have the baby, and if you don't want it,... give it up for abortion. You knew the consiquences of the possible "shame and ridicule" from your family and friends when you put ur self in the situation of getting pregnant.
I am not trying to ridicule you, but I would love to have another baby and I just don't think that abortion is the way.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-11-14 17:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Rileigh's MOMMY! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know what i am not for abortion but... you have to stop and think about YOU and YOURSELF. can you afford this baby. do you think that you will have the time and money to make such a grand decision. its not about what your family or friends think. you already have an 8 month old and you are single. which onw of them will come over at 2am when the 8 month old has an ear infection and the newborn is up all night. honey think about these things. having an abortion does not make you a bad person. it makes you a smart one. who can go through 9 mos. of bonding during pregnancy not to mention L&D and just say here take my baby. if you can than consider that option. but also think about the future of you and your 2 kids. take a while think about it.you can even email me if you want more support. but make the decision that is right for you
2006-11-14 17:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by sexydee_lpn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have the baby. Just think, that will be one more child to take care of you when you are 80! Your 9 year old will be able to help you somewhat when the baby arrives. You are not alone---turn to your family & friends.
2006-11-14 17:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by L. C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd have it, if your so called friends and family would shame and ridicule you for having a baby you need to get and stay as far away as possible as fast as possible these people are not friends and are scummy people
2006-11-14 17:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by jo_jo_baby2004 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You never had family or freinds if they shame or ridicule for having this child. If you love you and your children you will make your owen life for yourselves and if they want part of it will comform to you and they will. If they do not you will be happier for it, if they conform to your wishes, they and you will be happy for it. It is a win win for you as long as the children come first.
2006-11-14 17:49:12 · answer #11 · answered by Scott B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋