I'M BEING REALLY SERIOUS WITH THIS! I NEED HELP! Can somebody help me?

Question

I'M BEING SERIOUS. I REALLY NEED HELP WITH MY PROBLEM. Can somebody help me?
I have a pretty average life...in college...nice home...good grades...good friends...but every once in awhile, I go and have sex with random guys that I meet online...

I'm so ashamed of myself afterwards...but it's kind of like a drug...and although I consider myself straight, I find myself having sex with guys....nobody knows...and nobody would suspect me of doing such a thing...

I really want to stop, but it's so hard...when I'm by myself, I look at porn on the Internet....and afterwards, I feel ashamed....what should I do? How do I stop??

PS: I'm not going to a counselor because I'm too embarassed for that...

Answer 1

It's possible you could be a sex addict. It is an actual diagnosed condition. My wife's best friend's husband has it and working with a therapist, he's been able to have a pretty normal life, he's married to a good person, he seems happy enough. But I was friends with him when he was a teen and in his early twenties and some of the stuff we saw (and heard of) him doing seems to fit perfectly into what you're talking about. The sex acts that aren't what you would normally do, the heavy guilt, all of that.

Do a google search on sex addiction (you might want to put an adult content filter up) and with some work, you should be able to find plenty of great reference material that can help you identify whether or not this is an issue for you. There are support groups and therapists which specialize in this field where you will be treated as an individual with a condition, not as anything more than that. And if this is your problem, it does not necessarily make you bisexual. Good luck, I hope you can get this worked out.

Answer 2

I suggest you either see a therapist or ask Jesus to come into your life. This behavior of yours is obviously something you are suppressing from surfacing. Pornography addiction probably plays a factor in making you act like this as well. Cut down on your viewing of them, or at least refrain from watching the extreme stuff. Ted Bundy started killing women because of pornography addiction, I'm sure you don't want to end up like him, being executed by electrocution for over 30 murders. The only thing you can and should do is change your habits. Maybe see pornography only once a day or talk to a therapist if you can't control yourself. The fact that you are having sex with random guys shows that your condition is becoming very serious. Seek treatment immediately. Sooner or later you will have to confess to others what you have done. Until you do, the urges will only become stronger. Living in denial makes it grow stronger every time you do it.

Answer 3

Find something else to do...you obviously have time on your hands to be looking at the porn. So instead go watch a movie, play video games, go out with friends.....FIND AN ANTI-DRUG! And if that doesn't work then when you feel ashamed write a post-it-note about how you feel afterwards, and put it on your computer to remind you to stop....

good luck

Answer 4

Maybe it's just a really horney faze your going through. The nights you can't get girls, you settle for men. This makes you bi-sexual.

Porn is available online, many watch it, some enjoy it, some detest it.

Unless this need of your turns to "attacking" others for the sex, then just chalk it up right now as haveing a very high sex drive.

DON'T even consider settleing down in a relationship, until you have sowed all your oats!!

Answer 5

You are who you are and to hide it WILL make you feel ashamed. So dont hide it anymore, no matter how hard that may be for you, then maybe you shame will go away. You might have to move somewhere else to pleasantly come out. Depending on what kind of guy friends at college you have.

Answer 6

Sorry to break the news to you buddy, but you are NOT straight. If you were straight you would not be having intercourse with the same sex. I think you need to see a shrink, so that they can help you work out your problems. Oh and also make sure you’re very precautious and ALWAYS use protection. You wouldn't want to catch a sexual transmitted disease or worse AIDS.

Answer 7

Well first, you need to realize that if you're enjoying intimacy with men, then you're not straight. I think you're living a life of denial and the reason you're having sex with various men is because you're afraid to come out of the closet, admitt you're gay, and find a loving companion.
Your first step is to grasp reality. There's no way you're straight if you're enjoying male on male sex. In my book, there's nothing wrong with being gay, but there is something wrong with living your life with the truth as a secret denying your sexuality.

Answer 8

you obviously are not straight, you really need to sit down and evaluate your life. not to mention what you are doing is extremly dangerous and could cause you more problems than just feeling ashamed. looking at porn is something all guys do so i wouldnt really feel ashamed of that. you really just need to figure out if you are gay or not (it seems that you are). just be careful and take some time to find yourself.

Answer 9

if you wont see a counselor google search books that people have written who have gone through the same thing. you aren't alone in this others have done or gone through the same thing, usually a counselor will be able to help you, but there are many books at libraries that would be able to help,

Answer 10

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