What should I do when I am happily married.but want to try sex with another man?

Answer 1

I think you should explore these feelings safely, (I will not judge you, but your wife should understand the situation so she can always make the decison if she wants you practicing this way)

Explore these feelings with a psychologist..

It can a be a beautiful thing with two men, much more emotional, but when your married it is guilt ridden afterwards.

Answer 2

Please don't do this. :( If you're happilly married why do you need to cheat on her??? With a man, at that!

Maybe you love your wife with all your heart, but you're lying to yourself when you say you are completely content with her sexually. If you think that you need to sleep with another woman or man to be satisfied, then obviously you ARE lacking something with your wife. It may be because of ways she's lacking, or it may be that you just do not have the will or self-control or desire to be monogamous.

In my opinion, if people don't want to be monogamous, that's fine, but then tell your monogamous partner and give them the choice to stay or go! Its one thing to make "mistakes" or sometimes an affair here and there is forgivable to some people, but if you want to sleep with other men, this will probably turn into a pattern. You will want to keep "trying" the next fantasy...it leads you down a slippery slope to nowhere.

Maybe you need some therapy...many men are too ashamed to get help for confusion about their own sexuality or problems in their sexual lives, and they shouldn't be.

Please, think of your wife...how if she knew it would break her heart so much and changed the way she looked at you completely,

I beg you to do your wife the service of leaving her if your going to be cheating on her like this, its just really not fair or right, and if you have a conscience I'm sure you know this.

Lastly, I will leave you with this:

Curiosity Killed the Cat!

Answer 3

If you are really happily married why cheat?

I would say the best thing to do is not go out cheating (be it with a man or woman) but see what might be wrong with your marriage (if there is anything at all).

If it is something you just wanted to try you should have done it before you said I do.

if you are feeling risky you might want to suggest a three way with you wife, but I wouldn't do that

Answer 4

you either have sex with another man and sacrifice your marriage (which you're happy with, right?) or....fantasize all you want but do not act on those desires.

Those are the most obvious ones. There are a whole bunch of other ways for it to turn out, but they involve deception, guilt, etc...

Answer 5

I think it would be unfair for me (or anyone for that matter) to tell you what to do. This is really one of those situations where you need to work things out for yourself. It is necessary to weigh up your marriage with this desire and you will be the one who will have to live with the consequence (Perhaps that is ending your marriage or supressing you sexual orientation)

A psychologist may be useful.

Answer 6

That's a difficult question. All I know is if you do have sex with someone else (male or female), your marriage won't be happy anymore, and might end. Is it worth it?

Answer 7

Is it possible for you to share your fantasy with your wife? Maybe she would understand. How emotionally intimate are the two of you? Then you can deal with these desires together.

Answer 8

This might be curiosity or a sexual fantasy. If it continues, it might help you to see a marriage counselor.

Answer 9

You fall under the category of "Curious"