My father is a pig. I love him-but a pig. My best friend is hispanic, my other best friend is black and the other is gay. My friends have been in my life for mostly over 25 years. So at holiday we are all together, in recent years, my Dad has been smarting off with comments or "firestarters" to get people mad. He does it when I'm out of the room. SO I can't nip it in the bud. So what do you think?
2006-11-14 09:26:49 · 10 answers · asked by Denise W 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My dad did the same thing, rest his soul. You apologize to your friends and you warn your dad that you won't stand for that type of behaviour, and pray for patience.
2006-11-14 09:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would talk to him about it. tell him how it makes you feel and how it hurts your friends. you can't just accept it so don't back down. show that your completely Sirius. He needs to know that that's not OK. show him that people are people, there's nothing wrong with being gay. about the racism tell him that there is only on race the human race. i mean look at Oprah and your dads probably not exactly famous. if your reasoning doesn't work take him to a therapist or someone who specializes in this are. Good luck!
2006-11-14 17:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell your dad it is really upsetting you, and ask if he cares about you enough to stop making comments when they are around, you can say that you don't care if he does it when they're not around, just not when they are because its your friends and you dont wanna be torn apart between you friends and you father. i would also talk to your friends, maybe tell them that they need to ignore him, because you don't think its right either, but that you dont want to be caught in the middle of you friends and family. hopefully that can cut back on the tension on both sides, and you can be happy on the holidays once again!
2006-11-14 17:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that you are right and your dad is wrong? Racism has a very good statistical and philosophical basis. It might be that you're the ignorant one and that you've been conditioned by society to react angrily when you hear certain views on certain subjects. Your dad seems to be testing your friends to see if they salivate to the sound of the same bells that you do.
2006-11-15 00:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your Dad started this only in recent years, something is wrong with him. He might need a neurological checkup. If he's been doing this to your friends for 25 years, they certainly are best friends to you and very loyal.
2006-11-14 17:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Debra D 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not responsible for your father or his beliefs. You can let him know that you do not share his beliefs, you can try to re-educate him, but in the end he may not change. I'm sure after all these years your friends know what your dad thinks, but they are YOUR friends, not his. Just try to minimize the times you are all together.
2006-11-14 17:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's a snappy comeback:
When it comes to race, you're the guy who came in last because you couldn't stop looking at the other people and just do the right thing.
2006-11-14 18:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by musemessmer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry ,but your not going to change your father. My advice see your friends separately from your dad... really after 25 years your friends are still putting up with his crap ...they must really love you They don't deserve to have to put up with him.
2006-11-14 19:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a racist is someone who is seeking to gain power in their life by putting down others in a way to feel better about themselves by creating a one up positon
2006-11-14 23:19:42 · answer #9 · answered by mochi.girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are entitled to their opinions and beliefs why does he have to change you are labeling him like he labels your friends its funny how people are always complaining about being labeled and discriminated aginst and since hes a "racist" or a "smoker" its ok to label and catagorize them isint everybody entitled to their opinions is it his home or yours if its your home say something if its his home dont have your friends over if they are not ready for what hes dishing out
2006-11-14 17:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋