ok i was in a relationship with this guy named gabe, i kinda proposed to him a while back(we both work together) but i dont want to be with him any more, i kind of like someone else i tried telling him its about 2 times its over between us(gabe) but he's the kind the person who holds on to things and wont let go. (bad thing is i kinda told gabe i liked the another guy at work and his name) how do get away from gabe and go to the other person without hurting gabe, he is a nice guy but i dont want to be with him anymore.
2006-11-14 09:21:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i just cant stand him anymore i told him i don't want to be with him anymore. but i know hes gonna wait for me after i get off work and wanna walk me home we have known each other since 4th grade. Now i'm 19 he's 22 he keeps telling me "oh i wanna be the father of your children" and "i can't live without you" etc.
2006-11-14 09:31:57 · update #1
You need to find out what love is all about, how it really feels to be in love with someone. Believe me you don't know at this time in your life. You can't kinda ask someone to marry you and then say I don't want to be with you anymore a short time later. Gabe has to let go want to or not. You don't love him. Gabe is lucky to get out now with a little hurt rather than be devastated a few years later. Gabe is probably the lucky one here. You're right he is a good guy and someone who understands love will grab him right up. Don't worry he won't hurt for long
2006-11-14 09:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ricky: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few issues that I see here. I will address them individually.
1. You said that you "kinda proposed to him awhile back" and now you don't want to "be with him anymore." This tells me that you make rash desicions and don't issue your thought process. I suggest you try to work on that.
2. Being honest and telling Gabe that you don't want to be with him should be your out in your relationship. If it's not, then you need to have a talk with him. If you are certain you do not want to be with him anymore, then be as nice about it as you can.
3. You told Gabe who the new guy is and that you all work together. That is receipe for disaster. Lots of scenerios could play out in the long run for example...you could end up not liking either of them and vise versa. In the short run of things, they could end up fighting over you. That is NOT a good thing.
I suggest you do some thinking. You are free to be with who you want to be with anytime you want to, but you are not free to play games with other people's emotions.
2006-11-14 17:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa Dagger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you propose to gabe? You are NO WAY ready to settle down and make a commitment to anyone if your eyes are still wandering. If I was gabe I would dump you. Marriage isn't something you go into lightly.
Promise me you won't put this other guy in the same spot when someone new comes along.
2006-11-14 17:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'd go with ricky above me, but if gabe loves you he would let you go b(ad move by tellin him who you like cuz he might try to do somethin 2 him) (hopefully not) but it sound like gabe is just a tad obsessive with you, if he walks you home and knows where you live thats really not a good idea maybe you could switch shifts or something. tell him you don't want to be with him anymore.
2006-11-14 18:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by Robert S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep going with the new guy , and also be good friends with Gabe eventually Gabe will understand give him some time , its all in your hands how to treat Gabe , but don't give up the other guy
2006-11-14 17:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by sweetypieppinky 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like you're going to be able to "get away" from Gabe without hurting him even more. Think carefully when you "propose" to someone. Good luck.
2006-11-14 17:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Vince 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not the sharpest tool in the shed, are you??? First off, YOU propose to him, and then you "mention" to him you like someone else? I think you are doing Gabe a BIG FAVOR!!
2006-11-14 17:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Nunya 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sure you have heard the saying... Honesty is the best policy. You just have to be straight with him. Otherwise, he may get hurt even more if he thinks he still has a chance. Maybe you should just cut him out completely, that way he will finally get it! Good luck! LOL ;-)
2006-11-14 17:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sugar_Mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter telling him how you feel. then sit down with him and read it to him or have him read it. then talk about it. if you still want to be friends tell him. if you want to see how the letter sounds (like to make sure there isn't any not-meant hidden meanings) have a very close friend go over it with you beforehand.
2006-11-14 17:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the others said tell him the truth. Go on 1 date with him and then spill your guts Good Luck
2006-11-14 17:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by crazykid9530 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋