intimacy & emotions?

Question

i'm starting to feel like intimacy without emotional attachment would be better for someone who feels like s/he's being vulnerable by making love and being in love with that person at the same time.

do you ever feel the same

Answer 1

No, intimacy with my husband always has an emotional attachment. I've never made love to anyone else except him so I've never felt vulnerable. I've felt loved, wanted and treasured.

Answer 2

I think making love is always going to be a vulnerable thing. I mean, there are all sorts of ideas of shag buddies and suchlike, but (from my experience,) you still get emotions involved, just that they are all the wrong ones e.g. guilt, sadness that you're not in love.

For me, it's taken a while to work it out, but intimacy and emotional attachment come together really. Though, by all means, try out intimacy without the emotions. It does work for some people. Just saying how I felt :)

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Answer 3

I used to feel that way/believe that.
But I have come to learn that there is no way to not be attached to someone who you have entered or been entered into. The energy of denial that you are not connected is ultimately draining and injures the soul. So, anytime you connect, there is vulnerability-it is about making wise choices as to whom you allow into your vulnerable space and whether that person will honor and respect the sanctity of your soul.

Answer 4

hmm, you can fall inlove with lust