My fiance's White female friend of five years can't stand Black women but she loves Black men. Although I believe that it's because she's very insecure and is somehow threatened by Black women, my man always finds himself defending African-American females from her sterotypes. She knows about our wedding but feels hurt that my man invited everyone else except her on account of me so that there isn't any tension at the wedding. Should I invite her and kill her with kindness, or should I leave the decision up to my fiance? Or should I leave things the way they are? Afterall, if the girl can accept only one race's gender and is not accepting of the entire race, then is she not worth thinking about, especially on a day that's not her own?
P.S.
Before anyone starts assuming, no, they were never an item, they never messed around, and yes, I trust him.
2006-11-14 09:19:08 · 9 answers · asked by wrtrchk 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
VWLUVR, yes, she has stated many times that she can't stand Black women and followed them up with stereotypes and how we all do xyz.
2006-11-14 10:51:35 · update #1
And Carrie, I am on her like white on rice. It just so happens that she's my man's co-worker.
2006-11-14 10:52:37 · update #2
Your hubby cares for you, he loves you too! he knows the attitude of that woman, LET HIM TAKE THE DECISION!! this will make him realise your greatness, & may be she'll realise it too. Because to your husband you are the most important woman!
2006-11-14 09:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its not you problem she's an ignorant b*tch. If your hubby to be didn't invite her dont beat yourself up about it.
Why is he friends with her anyway?
I think she's friends with him because she likes him. You know what I mean. Watch her. I've met her type. The couple in question are now divorced.
2006-11-14 09:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your wedding day, do not let it be ruined by someone else's feelings! She is just his friend....you are going to be his wife. Your feelings on that day are MUCH more important than hers.
2006-11-14 09:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
invite her and let her experience the black ness of the women first hand.she may find that they are not as she thinks,she will never change her perception if she never gets to socialize with black women.
2006-11-14 09:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No YOU SHOULD NOT INVITE HER...
That is your day, you dont need any negativity affecting you. Forget killing her with kindness, there is no need to even attempt to be this womans friend. Let her be hurt.
2006-11-14 10:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would let my fiance handle his own business. thats his friend not yours! BEST OF LUCK AT THE WEDDING GIRL♥
2006-11-14 09:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by ♥la chica♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your fiance decide, it's his friend, are you positive she HATES you? You could be wrong.
2006-11-14 09:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by PegBundyWannabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly wouldn't invite her.
2006-11-14 10:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by rhymingron 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why?
2006-11-14 09:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋