My best friend (more like a sister) and I have stop talking for the past three week. She stated that I did something to upset her but never told me what I did. I have been racking m brain as of what to do about the situation. One part of me say let it go. If she was a true friend then she would have brought to me what I did to upset her and the other part of me says to reach out and find out what is the problem. Just asking what anyone think I should do.....
2006-11-14 09:18:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't throw 20 years of friendship down the drain just because she hasn't been talking to you. Try e-mailing or calling her or ask her if she wants to meet somewhere to talk, then confront her about it. Ask her what you did and then *if u feel like it deserves an apology* alologise to her. Keeping things bottled up won't help the situation at all. Confront her and that way you'll feel better because you will have an understanding about what's going on. A true friend will be honest with you and tell you what's on her mind.
She may not want to talk at first, so if she doesn't then don't push her to talk to you about it. Once she's cooled off try again... don't give up until you get an answer.
And remember it's the hard time friends go through, and the stupid fights that bring them closer
2006-11-14 09:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask her what was it that I did wrong, I mean you have a right to know, so that she could get an appology on it or to make it up some how. If she dosn't budge on how she wants to deal w/ this situation, don't get your head all in it on how she should reply back. It must have been really big to her and it needs time to reply back. I would start the message w/ "We have a long happy friendship in the past and wouldn't like to lose it...." And I know that you have other friends you hang out w/ and family as well. So chill, don't trip as much, the more you trip the more it'll become harder to calm your rushy river.
2006-11-14 17:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends must agree to disagree sometimes. If you two have been friends for 20 years, then I say go to her house and confront her with it. Tell her that in the name of your friendship, that you have the right to know what is going on, whether she speaks to you again or not. Sounds like there is more to it, than something you supposedly said. Maybe she is going through some type of depression or something, I don't know.
2006-11-14 17:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation, with a friend of over 15 years. After talking several times a day for over a year, she left me a very nasty message on my answering machine. When I tried to call her back, she wouldn't pick up. That was over a year ago.
I've tried to contact her numerous times (by phone, email, and letters), but I've had no success. I don't know what I did that was so awful she had to end our friendship.
The way I see it, I've done all I can at this point. I've reached out to her, but she's obviously not of the mindset to talk to me right now. I hope someday she'll change her mind, but I have to leave the ball in her court. I can't MAKE her decide to work things out: it will take both of us to reconcile. I can't do it alone.
In the end, you have to decide for yourself what is "enough" attempts to make contact. Whatever you do, don't apologize - you don't know what happened, so that makes no sense. And it makes you look weak, vulnerable to blame for whatever excuse she has for not speaking to you.
I hate the thought of ending a long-time relationship with a close friend of either gender, but sometimes it's out of our hands. I know how hurtful it is to lose someone in this way - all you can do is continue to be the best person (and friend) you can to those still around you.
The saying: "What comes around, goes around" is one I have to trust in. The trick is, we sometimes have to accept that we may not be there to see the people who hurt us get what they deserve.
Good luck!
2006-11-14 17:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately try to reach out. Maybe she wants to know YOU want to know. There is also the possibility that she is stubborn and has forgotten why she is angry. You must try to fing out why; if it doesn't work out, you at least know you did everything you could to try to salvage this friendship.
2006-11-14 17:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by mzindica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like her problem for not being willing to talk to you about it. She may need time and your patience. In the mean time, move on with your life and hopefully she will realize she needs to be open and honest with you.
2006-11-14 17:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by Vince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just said "If she was a true friend then she would have brought to me what I did to upset her"
2006-11-14 17:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, don't let her go. yah, it seams like the best thing to do, but its not. you'll feel like a part of you in missing.
trust me, thats kinda what is happening to me. because my friend moved away, and we dont really talk that much, but shes still my best friend.
dont let her go.
good luckkk. [=
2006-11-14 17:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
o.k think about it why should you give up on that long of a friendship i mean i never had that long of one!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-14 17:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no keep your friendship you might fall in love
2006-11-14 17:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by BABY GIRL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋