And she is now pregant with are first kid but things have changed so much, I know its because she pregnant but she makes me fill like she doesnt even love me and wana be around me. I mean nothing like it use to be im even scared to try and love on her because when I do she pushes me away. Im scared to touch her and even try and love on her. What am I sopose to do I cant go on like this?
2006-11-14 08:51:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hated being pregnant ... everything that has to do with being pregnant ... your body goes through soooo many different changes ... physically, emotionally & most of the time I really didn't know why I was so hateful ... everything pushed my buttons & everything seemed worse ... try talking to her to really find out what it is that's bothering her ... don't keep asking " what's wrong .. what's wrong " ... that's not the way to really start a deep conversation ... tell her you want to sit and talk about your relationship & what's been going on in your mind .. tell her how you feel .. tell her how much you love her & want her to be happy & what you can do to accomplish that .. plan an evening out of it .. and don't back down until you start getting some answers .. you never know it could be something simple like - she doesn't think you're cleanning enough or it could be something big you never know .. so act like a girl for a few nights and be all emotional with her ... lol .. good luck .. and watch out for that " but I'm pregnant " excuse .. that doesn't work for everything ... !
2006-11-14 09:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this. It is now time to be a big boy. Women go through a million hormonal changes during pregnancy, you now have to be her emotional tampon and just suck it up and be supportive. Remember, everything you are used to and had planned on has just changed! You are about to pull a seat up to the grown ups table and it is time to get your elbows off the table and set an example for the life you bore.
Additionally I suggest you get a DNA test at birth. I know this seems cruel and heartless, but do you really want to end up on the Maury Povich show in three years after you have invested money, emotion, and freedom? I am sure your woman has been faithful, but since women cheat more often than men in the modern era, it doesn't hurt to be sure. Good luck.
2006-11-14 08:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to sit down and talk to her and maybe her doctor also. I have never been pregnant, but i can imagine that it would be quite uncomfortable as well as your self image can change. If this is a girl that you truly love you need to ask her questions like what you can do for her to make her feel more comfortable? Or if you can do anything to help her feel better? Or if she is stressed out ( you did say this was your first child together) Also maybe even offer to go to pregnancy classes together. Regardless of how the relationship works out, you are both going to be parents to this child for the rest of your lives.
2006-11-14 08:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During pregnancy women go through a lot of change. Their body changes,mood etc etc. What you can do to support her is to make her feel wanted and loved. Buy her things that she craves to eat. Surprise her by helping her around the house. Maybe cook something she has been craving for some time. Trust me its just a phase.
2006-11-14 08:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to just remember she is pregnant and she is scared her self its not easy for her either. she feels like you are not attractived to her no more because she is pregnant. you need to just give her some time and do little things to show her how much you love her like try and tell her that you love the way she looks and you love the fact that she loves you so much as to have a child with you. just keep giving her love but also give her a little space its hard but it really works.
2006-11-14 09:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that it's that serious. She is very hormonal right now. Caring a baby can do this to you. Try talking to her she might not even realize that she is doing the things she is doing to you. Also she might not want you to touch her because she thinks that she is fat and unattractive.
2006-11-14 08:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe things happen because she pregnant and pregnancy is not an easy job. You have to understand her and have more patience. After pregnancy try to talk to her befor eyou get marry.
2006-11-14 08:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by Arcie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you did this to her!!!! LOL just kidding, she's pregnant hormones are racing, let her be don't push her cause it'll aggrevate her, she'll come around....beware of mood swings
2006-11-14 08:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a woman's pregnant, her hormones are upside down and sometimes she'll blame you for all the terrible things she's feeling...but don't worry though she does'nt hate and in a few months it'll all be over...just be there for her and have patience!!!
2006-11-14 08:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by angelic_234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get married at this time. You both need to go to couples counseling. I wish you the best
2006-11-14 08:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by cammie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋