Ready for baby?

Question

Im 22 and married. My husband is 22.I've never had much of my own family and I REALLY feel like I am ready to have a baby. I'm not so sure about him. He just threw my birth control away, we are using other protection. He knows I want a baby and he is shady about it. He said if we get pregnant then we will deal with it. I can't help but want one badly but i want the feeling to be mutual. I've bought dogs to help my urge to have one but it's not helping. I really don't know what to do because it's driving me crazy... I WANT A BABY!

We talk about babies all of the time... we have the same feelings on how we plan to raise them. I think he is just scared.. I don't want to say he isn't ready. I would NEVER force him into having a baby or trick him.

Answer 1

My boyfriend and I are also 22 years old and trying to conceieve but the feeling is mutual, he wants a baby just as much as I do. It is alot better to have both partners want the baby and I don't blame you for wanting him to want it just as much as you do. Maybe give him a little more time and see what happens, maybe he will begin to want a baby just as much as you do. Alot of people on here are going to tell you that you are too young and to wait a few years but I say, if you are emotionally, physically and financially ready and you and your partner are willing to give up your social lives and focus 100% on the baby and you realize how much hard work goes into having a baby then go for it, only you know when you are ready. Good luck.

Answer 2

No. Definitely not especially with the fissure! Cereal will not be more filling than the formula, it is thicker but does not contain the same amount of calories and nutrients, so it will NOT make the baby more full or more satisfied. It would be a bad idea to start him this early on baby rice, it is more difficult to digest and will without doubt irritate the fissure. It is unrealistic to expect a baby that young to stop waking for night feedings (sorry!) Baby isn't smacking his lips for 'something more', he does not know anything more even exists. Babies digestive systems are designed for a liquid diet. The recommendation is to wait until 6 months to give anythign except breastmilk or formula, not 4-6 months like it used to be years ago. Even when cereal or whatever food is introduced, breastmilk or formula should make up the large majority of the baby's diet for the first year. You should visit a pediatrician and educate yourself a bit more :) Good luck!

Answer 3

It is a perfectly natural, motherly instinct for women to have the desire for a baby. A baby is one of the most amazingly precious treasures that you can have. Dogs can never replace a child.
Your husband should not be hindering you! That shows selfishness on his part.
My uncle married many years ago. Neither he, nor his wife wanted children. All they got were dogs. They were happy for a while, but the quietness in their house left a sinking, empty void that dogs could not fill. They were unhappy, and after a while, both became too old for children. So they divorced.
Plead with your husband. You need children. They are an incredible, irreplaceable gift you don't want to miss out on.

Just keep this in mind...there are two things that can keep a family together: unconditional love between the spouses, and unconditional love for the children.

Answer 4

I don't know sweetie. I have times when I really want a baby, I see babies and hear of other people having them and it breaks my heart. Other days I'm thankful I havn't got one so I can spend time reading or going out.
I would suggest that you go to your local daycare center and see if they are hiring. If not maybe you could volunteer or find a different fun baby group in the community and help out. That way, you get to hold and cuddle the babies and you get to see the reality of having a baby, diapers, diaper rash, crying etc.....
Also you get to talk to other mums and it may help you with your decision.
I understand wanting to have a baby but 22 is young. Would you and your husband like to travel or do you have career or education goals to accomplish? Because once you have a baby all those plans will be on the back burner.
Good luck with your decision.

Answer 5

darling you have towait until he wants it too. A BABY HAS TO BE WANTED FOR BOTH. wait, give him time. I'm 22 as well and have a 3 month old baby. It's just not to want one or have one, it's a huge responsability. It's a human being, who need to be taught the right things. Everything changes when you hava a baby. EVERYTHING!. Once you have one it's forever, no matter what. They are lovely, adorable, the best thing in the world, but it's the biggest responsability people get to have. He's been sensible. What's the rush?????

Answer 6

Honey, if he threw away your BC, he's not entirely closed to the idea. He's probably nervous about it, but could also be toning down his reaction to hide his desire for a child. Even when we found out I was pg, hubby tried to play it cool, but wasn't hiding it very well. When we were trying, he acted like he didn't care, even when we had to seek medical help. (A little discouraging since he hadn't expressed a positive want to have a child and all of a sudden I was on medication.) But the day we found out, he called both his parents at their workplaces and told them, sent emails to his brother, and his boss had the head's up before he came home from work that day.

Answer 7

Talk to your husband, not to a bunch of strangers on yahoo boards. Whatever you do, do not trick him into having a child he doesn't want.

Answer 8

If he won't discuss it at all that is a bad sign. Get counsellings you need better communication before you become parents.

Answer 9

youre obviously ready, im not so sure about your husband though. if you think you can handle a kid, go for it! dont wait cuz if you have a kid now, youll be 40 or even older by the time they leave. i had my son young so i can have a life afterwards.

Answer 10

The best I can tell you is get him to sit down and talk about it.