But , I DON'T EVEN WANT TO SEE HIS FACE ANYMORE. i WANT EVERYTHING DONE LEGAL AND RIGHT NO SPECIAL TREATMENTS HERE.
2006-11-14 08:13:50 · 15 answers · asked by melly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do it right the first time. Get it in writing and legal. Friends or no friends. Doing it the legal way is doing it for the kids.
2006-11-14 08:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whats best for the kids..i don't want to see my ex,but that's because of something that's happen between us...nothing to do with the kids.Let him have a relationship with he kids,so many fathers aren't now a days,i think that you should go ahead and get legal help,just in case something happen,but don't totally take him away from his kids when he wants to be there for them.Be the bigger person.You can't make that decision for the kids not to see there dad.If you want to you can even get it so you go to a center,and you go in a room with the kids,and then someone will come and get the kids from the room,and take them to the room that their dad is in,and then you can leave.....I've seen it been done before,and the people are really nice.You don't have to see him,or talk to him,and he gets the kids for a couple of hours,and then you come back to the center,and you get the kids back.He can stay at the center or he can take them like out for ice cream or something.You should try something like that.....
2006-11-14 08:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Shana T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it all in wrinting on who when and where about the kids for starters. Then even though you hate him you still need to be civil about things. I have divorced parents and let me tell you that growing up was very hard. They hated each other and I would have given anything for it to have been different. The hate puts the kids through alot of stress. Be an adult and show him that you are better than him. Do the right thing for the kids.
2006-11-14 08:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by leah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should atleast try to stay friends with him just to keep the peace for the sake of the kids, but if you cant then yeah just get everything done legally.*
2006-11-14 08:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of human beings indexed under at the instant are not very useful - it somewhat is a shame. Do you have any friends in ordinary? Or are you able to talk together with his kinfolk? if so, i'd propose which you attempt to rearrange with them for him to spend time with the youngsters, the place you will have not any involvement, the place he won't would desire to work out or talk to you. the guy of course desires some area and, for the sake of the youngsters, you are able to supply him some. I do think of he could see the youngsters nonetheless, so do attempt to paintings that out with no need to talk with him at as quickly as. Relationships ending hurts, frequently females are people who nonetheless desire to be friends, adult adult males can no longer frequently handle that so properly - attempt to show which you realize and appreciate his emotions on that.
2016-12-10 09:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do everything right, legal, AND grown up. Maintain a cordial relationship for the kids' sake, but don't get screwed on the legal end.
Do everything legal and right AND keep a decent relationship.
2006-11-14 08:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get it all legal--for the kids sake, until they are 18yrs old you should be respectable to each other. This is best for the kids--It is hard enough for kids to have to go back & forth to spend time with parents, without all of the other crap that has to go along with it.
You don't have to be friends, but respect each other & support each other when it comes to the kids. If you want happy kids, you will have to be nice to each other.
2006-11-14 08:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by thansen080972 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex said the same and I think he is a real douchebag but I do not interfere with his relationship with our daughter bc I will not allow our problems to become hers. It is her father and I want her to have a relationship with him but that does not mean I have to be friends with either though. I try to remain civil and do not speak of anything except her to him and when possible, I avoid talking to him beyond a text msg. For instance, the other day he texted me and said he was going to pick up our kid on Sunday and said to call back if there were any problems with that. I didn't he picked her up through my mom and dropped her off to my mom as well. I did not have to talk to him at all and it was great. I know that I do have to speak with him but if I can limit it to as little as possible I think its better. I have no problems telling him about whats going on in our daughter's life but thats where it stays. I have no respect for this guy but like I said I have to be strong bc my daughter doesnt need to know what I really think of him or any problems that exist between me and him. Good luck and just try to keep your relationship w/ him on the sole context of your child. You no longer have any obligation to him beyond your child and do not have to be his friend but you should act civil for the sake of your child. Take care:)
2006-11-14 08:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband and I were on pretty nasty terms at first. Now several years after the divorce we are best of friends. It makes it better because we can all go out with the kids and our significant others. It really is better for the kids.
2006-11-14 08:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by Candy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not for you, it's for the children, you have to put their best interest ahead of your own. You don't have to like him, just learn to tolerate him. Remember - the kids are going to learn from the way you handle relationships (past and present). Don't make the divorce harder on them just because you don't like your ex anymore.
2006-11-14 08:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by Peach 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋