The true definition of narcissism is not admiring yourself in the mirror 24/7, Its being secretively manipulative and mind controlling through threats and insults and intentionally making a person hurt.
Only excepting serious answers.
I am 27 years old and I trying to run away as far as I can!!! Help!!
2006-11-14 08:12:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Don't listen to MAS. There is nothing wrong with living with your parents. I am Armenian and 25, and it is tradition to live with your parents until you are married. You have your whole life to live on your own, there is no rush to get out and live on your own.
Now, in your case, I would say an exception needs to be made. Good for you that you haven't let it effect you and that you have taken a stance to make this type of behavior stop. It really isn't going to go away unless you physically "leave" your mother. That way, she can't hurt you anymore. That must be so discouraging to you to be around someone like that. I know you must love your mother, but you really don't have a choice but to not be around her. This is the only way she can be stopped. Good luck, and God bless.
2006-11-14 08:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Faith C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have a mother who is narcissistic. I know what you are dealing with.. You are never right, your opinions are stupid, she has all the answers to all the questions.. Am I gettin this right? I am 26 and do not live with my mother, but the phone calls are hard enough to deal with. She also is paranoid schitzophrenic.. Means I have to be told that I am stupid for not beliving that she was cloned, or that the government is putting chemicals into her home.. It is hard I know. I recently started a private journal online so I could record my feelings each time we talk. I think in 5 years I should have more than enough to write a book and turn the illness she has into something positive for others to learn from.. My advice to you is this: If you do live with her, get away. It can make you crazy as you well know by now.. Unfortunately, it is miserable to stop talking to your own mother. I have tried several times.. When she starts trying to tell me I am wrong, I simply say good bye. She is learning that I am no longer the child who she could try to manipulate and brainwash. I DEMAND her respect! If she can't give that, I will call her once a week, ask if she is doing ok, and tell her I have errands to run. Good bye.
It seems to be getting through to her slowly. I hope for the best for you. Don't let the attitude she has rub off on you. God Bless!!!
2006-11-14 08:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by jessica m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention whether you are still living at home. If you are, I agree with the others it is time you move out as a start. If you are not, it's important for you to create and solidify your own identity since it seems you are too enveloped in hers. Once you create a life that can survive with or without her you should be OK. Also, important you learn detachment. Can you see her as just another human being on earth instead of only as your Mom? If so, how would you respond to her? To have a relationship on your terms is important. A good start would be to get call display and only talk to her when you feel up to it. It's important to find a way to satisfy your own needs, while still recognizing her needs as a Mother. I had an overbearing mother at one time and the only way I could deal with it was to move to another city to reclaim my identity. Now that she died, I have my peace, but I am also able to see she was a vulnerable human being like the rest of us. I realize I also could have been a better son, but didn't have the tools.
Good Luck.
2006-11-14 08:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by larry8837 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*narcissist*: Noun
1. Excessive love or admiration of oneself. See Synonyms at conceit. 2. A psychological condition characterized by self-preoccupation, lack of empathy, and unconscious deficits in self-esteem. 3. Erotic pleasure derived from contemplation or admiration of one's own body or self, especially as a fixation on or a regression to an infantile stage of development. 4. The attribute of the human psyche charactized by admiration of oneself but within normal limits.
You're 27 years old, just move away.
2006-11-14 08:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have gotten out of your parents house at least by 22-24. Jesus Christ, leave as quick as possible...get some roommates, go to college, backpack across Europe. She probably insults you because you haven't done anything with your life and are still living with your parents at age 27.
2006-11-14 08:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out, find new friends, and after u are as far as u can be from her ( I would suggest Alaska its still a state, but there is a country between u 2) Tell her how u feel, see how she reacts.
2006-11-14 08:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad is abusive and etc... I have not seen him in over 12 years. My husband's mother is manipulative and etc... He hasn't seen her in years. Sometimes we have to leave family behind or they will drive you nuts with them. It's not going to make you happy being away from them, but at least their not pushing you to the edge. So you have to decide if you can deal with your mother or deal with missing her in your life. Good luck.
2006-11-14 08:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by Xena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut all ties with her sweety,Because she,ll never change unless she trys to get help!Please protect yourself,and cut her completly out of your lifr,move,change Phone number,and if have to,change name!Hollywood
2006-11-14 08:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15% is okay if they are by themselves, but if there are a lot of cows I would bump it up to 20% so the others see what a good tipper you are.
2016-03-28 05:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋