Missed period please HELP!?

Question

I don't really keep up with my cycle although I know I should.But,Stepember my period started on the 8th and then October on the 6th,exactly 28 days.If I stayed on that cycle I should have started this month on the 3rd.It is now the 14th and I still have not gotton my peroid!Ive felt I was late before,bought preg. test and then started my peroid a few days later.Im terrified to even take one now!I have had no signs until today although around the 9th i did feel like i MIGHT start.I exercised today and wore a tampon just in case.I had some (red)spotting and now i feel like a may start again.Although this is how my peroid actually starts.I have not had sex with my boyfriend for over 4 weeks.We just moved,I had several bad panic attacks last month,so maybe it is just stress.But does it sound like im preg.?We have been together for 1 and 1/2 years but im 20 years old and he is 28,we are planning to get married next year.Honestly im just scared of haveing to tell my parents.Please help!

So every one will know.Yes i am an adult,the reasons im scared to talk to my parents are.Im adopted and ive herd all my life dont get preg.I know I didnt make this clear -We do practice safe sex we use condoms in junction with him pulling out.I dont use birth control because I have had allegric reaction with each pill ive tried.The patch also give me a rash.Safe sex was #1 topic from my mom growing up.My mom lives in Nc I live in La. My 11 year old stepsister had to have an orvery taken out because it and died,1 month after her mom died.My stepdad just found out that he has cancer -On top of stress just having to tell her -I just dont think she can take much more.My boyfriend have a wonderful relationship and we were already planning to be married next year around our 2 year mark.Now all im going to hear from my fam. is that we should get married now.I do NOT want a shotgun wedding.We are very happy and thus a child should have married parents I would like to wait. Thanks ALL!

Answer 1

I'm not going to sit here and assume you're having unprotected sex because I'm smart enough to realize that condoms and other birth control methods are not fool proof and it sounds like you really don't need the condesending, holier than thou attitudes right now. Sometimes the condom breaks. Sometimes the pill doesn't work. NO method of protection is going to offer 100% protection from pregnancy and STD's except abstinence.

Honestly, if you are spotting already it sounds like you may just be overly stressed. Stress can play a huge part in a woman's cycle. Trust me, I've been there done that.

When I was planning a beach vacation a few months ago I was worried about getting my period during the trip so I did some careful planning and went 2 weeks before I was due to start my period. Mother Nature had it in for me though (and my stressing over the trip probably helped as well) because I got my period the morning I was set to leave, 2 whole weeks early.

My point being - sometimes our bodies simply don't follow the calendar no matter how good you are about counting the days and keeping track. Every once in awhile we're thrown a curve ball.

I would suggest buying a test and taking it. If it comes out negative and you still do not get your period in the next day or so, schedule an appointment with your doctor. Obviously, if it is positive you need to go see your doctor right away.

If you are pregnant try not to stress about telling your parents. Even though you are 20 years old and about to get married, I understand the need to live up to your parents desires and wishes for you. But, their desires can't always be top priority. Especially if you have a baby on the way. If I was your mother, I might be dismayed that you got pregnant before getting married but, I would hope you could be sensible about the matter and do everything in your power to carry the baby, give birth, and raise it as well as I'd raised you.

Answer 2

How hard are you exercising?
What is your Body Mass Index? If your body fat gets too low, sometimes your body stops working to schedule.
Since you haven't had intercourse for 4 weeks you most probably are not pregnant.
A home pregnancy test should work to put your mind at ease, if it is a financial burden to pay for the test, go to a family doctor for the test.
Sitting at home, worrying about whether or not you are pregnant is stressful, take the test and move on.
With the moving, rigorous exercise, possible conflict with your parents, marriage plans.... it sounds like you need to take a relaxing holiday and enjoy being 20.

Answer 3

well first of all, your stressing can cause you to be late, and miss a period. I would just relax. I fyou have not had sex then you can't be pregnant. I suggest you take a test and then stop stressing. I fyou are pregnant it would show up by now. Oh and by the way, you are an adult. If you are 20 then your parents have no right to tell you anything. They might actually be happy if you ggave then a grand baby. relax and run your own life.

Answer 4

Don't panic. Your parents may be more understanding than you think. I mean, they do have you right?? Just get a cheap test. Or you could be right, it's just stress. Don't stress your self out more than you already are. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG FOR ALL THAT STRESS, GIRL. If you are pregnant, that does not mean that your life is over.
Good Luck..........

Answer 5

You sound just like me when i was younger. Usually, stress makes your period delayed and the more you wait for it, the more it tries to scare you. But you know, just take the test coz it will have the same result anyway. if you're pregnant, then you are..
If you are pregnant and experienced spotting, then it's bad.
So better do something about it soon.

Answer 6

I think it's just the stress throwing your cycle off. Stop worring about it so much and it will happen.

Especially if you haven't had sex in the last 4 weeks, I'm sure your not pregnant.

Answer 7

Whats the worse that can happen, sure you can be pregnat. All i can say is that you should be careful and buy a test just in case. So good luck with your parents and your soon to be husband.

Answer 8

i think the first step is get a pregnacy test done and then go from their. dont jump to step 3 if you haven't done step 1 you know what i meen.well good look....and dont be scared get help.

Answer 9

HUH? Have him wear a condom and you use birth control better safe than sorry! Quit worring cause it solves nothing. Worring won't stop you from being pregnant. Just go get a test and protect your self.

Answer 10

How about you just relax a little and see if you're actually pregnant? Try a urine test.