I am 24 years old and I am afraid of being alone forever. I feel as though I will never find Mr.Right again. I had a boyfriend of 1 year but we broke up like 2 years ago, and I feel like I will never find anyone else. Any advice??
2006-11-14 07:58:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I totally understand where you are coming from. I've been through a similar situation and felt like I'd be single for the rest of my life. But then I realized, if I stayed home, sulking and feeling miserable about myself, of course I'd never meet anyone!! This is a great time for you to focus on yourself!! How often to we get a chance to be 100% selfish and do things for ourselves in life?? not often, and one time we can is when we're single and unattached! What I mean by that is, you should take advantage of this time and do things you've always wanted to do but never got a chance. For example, I joined the gym with a new goal to work out and look hotter than ever. I also started taking guitar lessons cuz I've always wanted to but never got a chance. I always went out dancing/bar hopping with my girl friends on weekends. And I even adopted a little puppy! Once you get involved in things you've wanted to do, you're bound to meet someone who's interested in the same thing you are...And that's a great way to start off a new relationship! Good luck!
2006-11-14 08:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One day you are going to look back on this time and thank the heavens you did not go forward with the guy you split with. It is hard, I know, to shake these things off especially when you get in such a state--two years!!--but don't worry about anyone else. Enjoy yourself. You are not going to be single/alone/lonely forever, so enjoy the time you are single. I was getting into a funk a long while ago and realized all of my married friends and colleagues were jealous of MY lifestyle: I would pack up and get on a plane on a weekend when I would get one of those great email fares, I would go to the theater afterwork on a whim, I never missed a movie, I hit all the amazing free activities in parks and museums etc in this city, and just generally didn't miss a thing. And they would say WOW I wish I could do all those fun spontaneous things like you do. And in the meantime I was looking at them like jeez I wish I had a man and a family. Well life goes on, fast forward five or six years, and although I am single I have a beautiful amazing eight-month old little boy who I would not have if things went in a different direction back then. And TRUST ME I thank the Lord every day that I did not wind up with any of the jokers I used to cry about years ago. So silly. But we all go through it girly, don't you worry. Enjoy yourself and you will be ready to receive the things that will come to you.
2006-11-14 08:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by bklyngirly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to be alone forever. If you don't come across any guys that you would like to spend your life with, you can always build a family with children or pets. There are many orphaned children around the world desperate to have someone. Children have lots of needs, you will be busy socializing with other families and you will not feel lonely.
All you have to do is get a good education that will lead to a good job and the ability to support a family.
I've lived through it all and the saddest cases I've seen are women who expect to find a man to take care of them and they are not prepared economically to build a family. These women don't often have enough choices to avoid loneliness.
Since some women marry older men, since men die at a younger age and since couples get divorced, women are more available for friendship in their 50s and later. Between 25 and fifty, they are busy with their families, so it can get lonely for a single female.
Another option is to schedule various volunteer and educational pursuits during the evenings so you are not alone.
2006-11-14 08:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on feeling good just being with YOURSELF and not needing a man (or anyone else) to "complete" you! Many people fall into this trap because that's what society tells us we should do. But there is NOTHING wrong with being single and enjoying it!
Get a little counseling, try to figure out why you don't feel good enough by yourself. They can help you think of talents, skills and other good things in you that you can develop. You NEED that alone time to become a complete person, before you can really be in a healthy relationship.
2006-11-14 08:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness strikes people at every stage in life. Even married people feel lonely. Just remember that you can't have a relationship with someone until you feel you are relationship material. Get right with yourself, believe in yourself and do things for you. Find out what you like to do, in the process you may find someone that likes to do the same things. Just be yourself and enjoy life, let all the stress and anguish go for awhile and just enjoy yourself.
2006-11-14 08:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by btij06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just the state of mind you are in.you are still young.youre only 24.one day someone will come along and you will find happiness with that person and you will look back and realise it was worth the wait and also wonder why you were ever so in doubt of it ever happening again.you have gotten yourself into a mental rut of doubt.let go and enjoy life.theres plenty more out there to enjoy rather than worry about one small part of it.and chances are you let go and enjoy yourself and someone will show up.just dont worry about it too much and think it should happen 2moro.it will happen in due time
2006-11-14 09:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think you are so special that you deserve the right man without putting a lot of effort into finding him? The notion of "there's someone right for everyone is BS". The bell curve is everywhere in nature. You just might have to change yourself completely to attract men. Seriously. If "being yourself" worked, zilllions of loner losers would be dating attractive people.
Consider the George Costanza philosophy of life. Maybe try doing the opposite of what you would normally do. Different hair, clothes, style, mannerisms, and instead of worrying, simply don't care. You don't need the approval of anyone. People sense desperation. And remember: like attracts like. So turn yourself into the person you think would attract that "mr right". DO IT, throw yourself out there, take risks.
2006-11-14 08:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by Handsome Devil 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG!! I promise you that there is NO Mr. Right but I can tell you this, someone will come. You will be surprised where you can meet people, I mean they are every where. At the gas staion, stores, starbucks, etc. Go places that you enjoy, be friendly and say hello to anyone who catches your eye! If you are too shy to say hi, then a smile can also work wonders. Don't be lonely, get out there!!
2006-11-14 08:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've heard the phrase that water never boils if you watch it. Basically keep yourself busy improving yourself, go to the gym on a regular basis, read books to improve your intellect and never fall into the rut of being a Whor* because it will reduce the chance that you will ever get with a quality guy once he does find you.
2006-11-14 08:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I promise, if you get involved in helping others with their lives, you will find that you help yourself as much or more. Get out into the world and volunteer or join a hobby group. Volunteering, especially, will help you feel great about yourself and it will show on you. You will attract people to you - great people.
Find something that really interests you and get involved. Be a joiner. You won't have time to think of yourself as lonely.
2006-11-14 08:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋