Me and my girl broke up a few weeks ago, she said she didnt want to talk to me anymore. Last week she started calling me and after a couple of days she said I love you and I miss you. This past weekend she just showed up at my house she stayed the night and we had sex. She told me she cant be with me right now but that she will always love me. I dont know what to do cuz im so in love with her and a big part of me tells me I shouldnt be. Id have to write a book on all the stuff that we have done to each other. I just need to know what to do cuz my heart cant take any more.
2006-11-14 07:42:14 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like she is going thru breakup regrets. I think everyone has gone thru that. She can't live with you but can't live without you. Quit having sex with her in fact you need to cut all ties with her. That ole line, "I can't be with you right now but I will always love you" is someone who can't totally be honest in how they feel. She said that because she didn't have the courage to tell you the real truth. I am betting that she will continue with this until you make it completely clear you are done with her messing with your mind. She can't use you unless you let her. You have joined the "brokenhearted club" and it stinks like hell but you know what stinks worse? Letting someone continue to play with your emotions and continue to let them hurt you and with your permission. Let her go....realize that there are millions of us out there who are going thru the same thing that you are. You will make it, your heart will mend and better yet you will have your dignity.
2006-11-14 08:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard when you dont know what the reason is. Though wether it is a good reason or not she shouldnt be playing games with you like she is. I think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel and how it is tearing you apart, because the truth is if she loves you then she will put a stop to it wether it is keep her distance or stay put. But if she really loves yous and you are ment to be then youll find she will be back soon, if not there are many more fish in the sea. Good luck.
2006-11-14 19:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always difficult when two people break up and one party didn't want to. I'm sorry you're "hurting". Time will and does, make it better.
Last week she "showed up at your house, spent the night and you had sex". Understandable considering you are still in love with her. However, it was what it was, "sex". She may very well "love" you as a person, that doesn't mean she's "in love" with you.
I see nothing wrong with two adults having "sex" if they so desire. But in your case, I think it's going to do you more "harm" than "good". You are in love with her and she is "moving on". To continue to have a sexual relationship with her only "prolongs" your feelings.
If there is little chance of getting back together, why would you want to do anything that is going to make it more difficult for you to move on?
She is "doing this" to you because you are "allowing" her to. You need to think of yourself first, stop seeing her.
Best of luck.
2006-11-14 15:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Dude, I have been through this a couple of time and this is my theory. Girls are strange complex creatures. You are in the middle of break-up sex, and boy is it good sex. I had this one girl show up at my appt. butt naked once during break-up sex. Anyways, girls are one big train wreck of emotions. One day they cant live without you, the next day they are banging the neighbor. Go figure???....The are all different but generally the same. I might be wrong but when I was where you are now, the relationship was over. It broke my heart, but trust me you will get over it and find a better piece of tail down the road. You can go on without this crazy ***** dragging you down and playing her (what we call games) but for girls, thats just the normal ways things are done. Take this quote that my Grandpa told me the first time I had my heart broke, "Son, they are all crazy, even your Grandma.".............Keep your head up and dont give in to her. Be nice but be the one who cares less. Stand strong and proud my brother!!!!!
2006-11-14 15:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by aubreytaegan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to move on.. as hard as it may be she is just dragging you along. She may have someone else in her life and be unsure of where that is going to go. I think you should ask her why you broke up? Sometimes people just need time apart, but at other times it may be because the relationship is getting old and/or one person wants to check out the other possibilities. Good Luck either way and let me know how it goes!
2006-11-14 15:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by crazy about him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, I don't understand the part of her telling that she loves you and misses you and then she has sex with you...but she can't be with you right now.
She's sending you mixed signals, and she will continue to do so as long as you allow her to. If you don't want to be hurt anymore, then stop taking her phone calls and stop having sex with her.
Is she using you as a "filler" until she finds someone else?
2006-11-14 15:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to find something to fill your time so that you're not constantly thinking about her. She's probably trying to figure stuff out, but she still cares about you too. Give her some space and time. Letting her breathe will help both of you get back on track with where your lives should go, whether that's together or seperately. Good luck, bud!
2006-11-14 15:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Another Nickname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry cutie...She is most likely torn between you and another guy.....She evidently loves you but something else for whatever reason has her attention. Im not going to lie, I know it hurts but you have to let her go. Is it not right for her to play with your emotions like this. It may be hard but just tell her, until she makes up her mind, you won't talk/see her. You have to do what is best for you. In time you'll get over it trust me. Even though its hard to believe "if its meant to be it will be" im here if you need me just e-mail me!
2006-11-14 16:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by AnnaG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a booty call man... If you want more than sex out of this relationship in the future it seems that it's either not happening, or you need to figure out what's up with "your" girl. And why can't she can't be with you. If that's not an option then I suggest moving on...
2006-11-14 15:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by DmanLT21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's going to be hard, but you need to be firm with her. Tell her she needs to stop messing with your head. Either she wants to be with you or she doesnt. Dont let her say maybe or whatever. Tell her you expect a Yes or No question. If she hem-haws around, then there is your first clue right there. Im sorry, I know it sounds mean, but it sounds like she is using you..... bad!
Good Luck
2006-11-14 16:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by amers_8504 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋