I've known this guy my entire life, I mean, I don't have a memory he's not in. We did that whole kids thing where I liked him and he didn't like me and then he liked me and i didn't like him. Then we started dating when i was about 15, but we broke up because i cheated on him.. among other things, I mean honestly I was probubly the worst girlfriend. Yet he claimed to still want to be with me, so when i was 16 he begged me (litterly on his knees) to go out with him just once. But after all this time he seemed more like a brother to me but i agreed to go out with him because .. and this is gonna sound weird, it hurt me to hurt him. Needless to say it didn't work out and we where just friend but he always wanted more, then my mother passed away and in all the chaos we lost contact. But i saw him again a few months ago and we said hey and he looked so different and i started thinking maybe we could give it another try... so.. your opinions? (ya i know, i sound like a total *****)
2006-11-14 07:32:13 · 11 answers · asked by Rhiannon 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
start slowly.......if u think he does still have feelings for u......and if u r sure u still have feelings for him then go for it....if not....then i dont kno what else to say
2006-11-14 07:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by inuyashaincarnate 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In view of all the 'chaos' you have in your life right now I can understand seeing this guy in a different light now.
Where as before he was common and 'brotherly' now he has a new appeal. He is a piece of your past who knows you well and who you can be yourself around. Sometimes there is no substitute for that.
It could be tempting to hook up with him right now because he is a comfort zone for you. But when all is said and done is he someone you really want to be with? Only you know girl. Give it some thought before you rush into anything. It seems like he has been good to you so- be good to him. If this is someone you have a strong connection with why not call him up and test the waters? He may be feeling the same way.
2006-11-14 07:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by d☻min☺ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Forget the teenage stuff for once and look at him with fresh eyes, as if you met him today. Would you want to go out and talk to him TODAY?
If yes, don't even think and hesitate: GO FOR IT.
You say he "looked so different". After a couple of years he could really be looking very different, I bet. But that statement tells me somehow that you really like him. If you say he "looked so different", it means you are attracted to him, in a new way, this time. The brotherly stuff can often turn hot in a second, don't forget that... :)), and earlier breaks and turmoils are just beneficial to that process!
Good luck, girl, I will keep my fingers crossed for you 2.
2006-11-15 07:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are stringing this guy along until someone better comes around. Stop it. You know he's crazy about you and your ego loves the attention. This poor guy is being led to believe he might have a chance with you - he doesn't and you know it. 1) You said it yourself you like him as a brother. And 2) If you really cared about him and didn't want to hurt him, you wouldn't have cheated the first time. Your story doesn't fly - let this guy go so he can find someone nice to date.
2006-11-14 07:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Strange the way things are. You've had a lifetime to make up your mind about someone and you can't. I've known for over a year that I need someone and it doesn't happen. Ya' wanna change places..............but I want the right guy.........
2006-11-14 07:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say don't let this opportunity pass. it could be that you both are still growing up. and you say when you saw him this last time, something was different. i would say that something is you.
and no you don't sound like a total*****. if it doesn't work out again, you will probably be best friends for life. and if it does work out you will still be best friends for life.
2006-11-14 07:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you only live once. why not go out and just see how things go for an evening....?
if all is good to go, take it from there.
as they say, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
good luck
2006-11-16 22:25:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be prepared for him to NOT give you another chance. Good luck with this.
2006-11-14 07:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it! times change and people change! whats the harm in trying again?? so just go for it!!!!
2006-11-14 07:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by helz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You never know... test it out, move slowly, maybe it will work, maybe it won't.
2006-11-14 07:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋