I am a married woman.. my brother in law & I have a mutual attraction & have lightly flirted in the past.. I never thought much of it until this weekend when we all went out to the bar & drank alot.. he was telling me how sexy I am & kissing my neck and saying one day we would have sex and so on.. his wife was there and drunk as well and everyone I know thinks that most of the flirting we have done has been innocent (i thought so too until now)anyway on the way home hes like"your gonna get me into so much trouble"and was touching my leg the problem with this whole thing besides the obvious is that I LOVED it.. Im sure it had a lot to do with my ego (its always nice to know you are wanted) we talked after & he said he still loves his wife but there is something between us &then on Monday said he could not live with the guilt & didnt want to do anything about it..I know that he is right the thing is..I cant stop thinking about him..its wrecking my sex life & marriage how do I get over it
2006-11-14 07:24:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You'd better get over it, or your marriage is gonna end up in the crapper. If he acted like he wanted it, then said he couldn't handle the guilt, STAY AWAY FROM HIM! He will confess! You will get caught. It isn't worth it!
2006-11-14 07:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have one choice if you want your marriage to survive. You must distance yourself from him and concentrate on your husband. Temptation is always there, it's whether you act on it that matters. What's the best way to avoid temptation? Don't put yourself in that situation again! The ultimate decision is up to you to do the right thing. Cheating is a symptom of problems in a marriage. You and your husband need time to work on your marriage so you can recover what it is that is missing and making you turn to another man for the attention that you are lacking. You know that this temptation is wrong, otherwise you would not be doubting yourself by writing this question. Concentrate on your marriage, and avoid your brother-in-law and his wife, because YOU know this is the RIGHT thing to do.
2006-11-14 07:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stats say that about 80% of men have had affairs and maybe around 50% of women. Men cheating have nothing to do with a happy or unhappy home. It has to do with biology. Men are biologically polygamous. They need variety. There is a real reason why there are 12,000 topless clubs and prostitution is the worlds oldest profession. Hookers will tell you that married men make up 80% or more of their business. And they wil also tell you that they have saved or extended moremarriages than any marriage counsellor. Another bit for your curiosity, divorce is in the 50% to 60% range except amoung swingers whre it is around 10% or less.
2016-03-28 05:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an opportunity here to not only wreck your marriage, but ruin the relationship between brothers. STOP! Stay away from him for awhile and never allow the flirting and/or kissing to happen again. It is wrong and you know it.
2006-11-14 07:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like nothing but sexual attraction to me. Being married, you need to stay away from him. He obviously loves his wife or would not feel guilty. Maybe you need to spice up your sex life with your husband. Going down this road with a married guy could be very painful and the sex eventually gets old.
2006-11-14 07:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By telling yourself that it would ruin your marriage, break your husbands heart and your brother in laws wifes too. Get over the little flirtation you two had and move on. He is doing the right thing and so should you.
2006-11-14 07:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to take some time away on ur own. to me it seems that u dont no what you want, yea its good to feel wanted and u luv it but u have to stop the flirting as u will feel even more attracted to him!! in this whole situation you have to stop and think about ur hubby n this mans wife.. so many people could get hurt.Even youself. so take some time out to unwind n think about what it really is you want. xxx
2006-11-14 07:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by sweetchick18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BIL is a 100% JERK to be hitting on his very brother's wife! And, YOU are ignorant to be playing along with it. You're fighting with fire, girl! You got your widdle EGO stoked. That's it. Now, quit obsessing over this jerk or you will wind up divorced and will break your husband's heart. Geezzzzzzzz
2006-11-14 07:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by CURIOUS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's gross. You both are married and related by marriage - you have both disrespected each other and your spouses. I hope they find out and decide to divorce you guys....it's not fair to them; they didn't deserve this. Putting your own wants and needs before that of everybody is a bad game plan....karma is coming and it will be FIERCE!
2006-11-14 07:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do, you get right over it and leave your sister-in-laws husband alone, thank god he came to his senses and so should you . if anything spice up your own marriage and start flirting with your own man and get your marriage in order and stop the nastiness and pull your self together
2006-11-14 07:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋