therefore, no grandkids...no greatgrandkids...nothing.
you would be living alone, with no family.
do you think it would be depressing?
do you think you missed out on life?
would you be lonely?
2006-11-14 07:23:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Yawza-I think your attitude is a very dangerous one.
People should not rely on others to be their source of happiness.
I find it very disturbing that too many people have kids to curb their lonliness-that injures the children and their sense of separateness, identity, and freedom to grow in their own direction. Please do not impose this false belief of yours onto your children or grand children as that would be very cruel of you. Accept that what you have expressed works for you, but other people have other paths-respect them.
2006-11-14 07:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a matter of perspective. People are different and have differing needs. I don't have kids and I am blissed out by that choice. And a conscious and aware choice it was on my part.
The life that obviously is a source of joy for you would make me feel trapped and very unhappy. So, you see, what you feel would be depressing or lonely, to me is liberating. And not only do I not feel like I have "missed out on life" but it has increased my opportunities to explore and experience a much wider array of life's aspects. I have worked with many children in many parts of the world, learned much about many cultures and ways of living and it has made for a very enriching life and contributed to making me a better human being. A person does not have to be "living alone, with no family"-when one embraces the family of humanness. So, you see, there are many ways to live a life that are not only a source of great joy, but one of service and contribution to a greater family. Peace to all choices.
2006-11-14 15:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by ontheroadagainwithoutyou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Kimberly D said it best: "Not having kids doesn't mean you don't have a world. It's just a different one."
I know a couple in their 50s, high school sweethearts who married after he came back from Vietnam, and they never had children. They are very happy together and VERY active, particularly in issues they believe in (Heffer Internat'l, counter-recruiting, politics, culture & traveling). Their lives are very fulfilling.
I understand the love I will not be bestowing on children of my own should I not have any. But I adore my nieces and do tutoring.
One can do volunteer work if they feel they want to be involved with children without having any.
My decision may change, but I am WAY too busy with my life, interests and activities to feel any void. I have no regrets thus far about my decision.
2006-11-14 17:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by jakomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question.
As much as I love my kids and my time with them.
I do look at my friends and family who have made the decision not to have children with a little envy.
They definitely have more freedom, money, time and energy at the end of the day.
No, I do not think they will be any lonelier necessarily than someone with kids.
Why?
Because they are taking full advantage of their nieces and nephews, and they have developed interests and friends. (also they will NEVER suffer empty nest syndrome!)
My kids are my whole world. (that's the nature of kids).
Not having kids doesn't mean you don't have a world. It's just a different one.
I am looking forward to being a grandma though (only 20 more years or so to go) THAT's the real payoff! ;)
The bottom line is:
Making a decision not to have kids is as important and should be as respected as choosing to HAVE kids.
Kids are important enough to deserve that consideration.
People shouldn't have kids to avoid loneliness as they get older, that's what pets are for.
2006-11-14 15:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by Oh, I see 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I would be lonely but I would have found happiness in a different way. I am sure I would have a heck of a lot more money then I do now. I probably would have just hooked up with a woman that didn't want children either.
2006-11-14 15:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd find the pitying attitudes of strangers or family irritating.
I don't expect to ever have children. Some people are just loners like me and that's life. Lonliness can be blissful peace.
2006-11-14 15:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad I will never have to find that out. I have kids and grandkids and love them all more than myself. Can't imagine life without them. They are all such a joy.
2006-11-14 15:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say but I don't plan on having kids because if I did I would feel that I was missing out on life.
2006-11-14 15:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by redpillowcase 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts, I am soon be 58 years old, I am just me wife no x wife no kids, no pets, no money, just me.
I do care people care are me, Yes I do living alone,
depressing yes at times,
do I think you missed out on life, the love that child has for its father,
yes time I am lonely.
God's plan for me is to be Just me.
2006-11-14 15:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by justmejimw 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Life is what you make it. A person is not defined by their ability to procreate. In fact, many people who do bring children into the world never should have!
2006-11-14 15:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋