Anyone know Oklahoma laws/ child custody/ support?

Question

My ex and I have a 8yr. old boy. We were never married and when we split we agreed on the amount of child support he'd pay. So, we've never done anything through court. Four years ago he was accepted into dental school and now is getting ready to graduate and move back home. I started back to school this last semester. My husband (of three years) and I are seperated and looking at divorse. Now that I am a single mom of 3 and working full time and going back to school..my mom suggested that when my 1st ex graduates that I should reanalize the amount he pays and consider him to pay more. I know that when he graduates he will only be paying less than a third of what he could be forced to pay if I wanted to do it legally through court. But, I don't know that I have the balls to ask him to pay more. Any good advice?

Answer 1

Support for your two younger children will be set at your divorce. Support for your first child has to be 'established ' first. Anytime a payer has a significant increase in income--support should be adjusted. Talk to someone at your local child support office. (You probably will have to with your impending divorce anyway.) They will contact your boy's father regarding support. And if it is a huge increase, you may be able to agree to a lesser amount of support (still getting a big increase) and you will look like the 'good guy'. Also, if you're going to apply for benefits (medical assistance, food stamps etc) from your state, this will compel the CSA to collect a proper amount of support for your kids.


Here's a link to your states CSE website:

http://www.okdhs.org/

Answer 2

Kids get more expensive as they get older....and more than likely..when you split..it was easier to agree to an amount to keep from fighting. There is nothing wrong in going to court to have it legalized. The judge will decide if the amount he pays is fair and by state laws...he will also be required to help with school and medical expenses. They are just as much his responsibility as yours.....Having it in writing from the courts is best for both of you. For him to prove he is paying and for you to make sure he follows through with his responsibility.
I'm sure you had it all legalized with you husband too on the other children..so why not with your oldest?......Be safe.....go to court...your son deserves it !!!!

Good Luck

Answer 3

It's going to look like you're asking him to pay up because he'll be making more, but I understand what you're going through. Unless he's just the nicest guy on the earth and willing to give you more money when he isn't made to, you're going to have to take him to court. In Oklahoma it's a pretty civilized thing, the judge will just order him to pay an amount that coincides with how much he makes and how much the sees his son.