I meet this guy at school and he would hit on me and told me he liked me. I told him that I had a boyfriend and that I loved him a lot. We then became friends, but my boyfriend found out he used to like me. He told me to stop talking to him, but he still calls me. He doesn't hit on me anymore and his a nice friend. What do you guys think? Is it cheating? I wouldn't do anything with him his just a friend.
2006-11-14 07:12:47 · 14 answers · asked by PiZzA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I have been with my boyfriend for four years already and I've known my friend for 3 1/2 and during this lapse of time my friend has had 2 girlfriends and he has told me how much he likes them. We don't hang out we just talk on the phone. He even left the state, BUT he still calls me.
2006-11-14 08:42:44 · update #1
I don't blame your boyfriend for being a little scared there, but telling you what to do and who to hang out with, isn't good. Its your choice, not his. Reassure him more. If you and this boy just hang out alone I too would fear you were cheating. But if you hang out with this boy in a group of people than its fine.
2006-11-14 07:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend to grow up. All my closest friends are guys and my boyfriend knows this. He also knows that guys are a dime a dozen and true friends are hard to come by. My friends are first at all cost. If that is a problem, he can hit the road. There are plenty more where he crawled out of! Now, the question is: Is this guy a true friend? You take it from there. If he is , then your boyfriend needs to start acting a little more mature!
2006-11-14 10:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by stumped dummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say your question is a double edged sword. What it comes down to is respect and trust, and whether you want to open a can of worms that might explode all over the place. You know your boyfriend wouldnt appreciate it, so do you respect his feelings and not continue the friendshship? As far as trust goes, its not a question of his trust for you, but the fact that he feels he can't trust the other man simply because he does not know him. And knowing that this guy liked you at one point doesnt help the situation. So is it cheating? That's a question that only you can answer. Noone else on yahoo knows your relationship the way you do.
2006-11-14 07:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Renee G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how it is going to play out. Some day you will argue with your boyfriend. You will feel angry toward him and your friend will use the moment to move closer to you. I am telling you that is how guys move with girls. They move very sly. I am a guy. And I had a first hand experience with that kida situation. If you still want to keep him as a friend, you must ask him to make a promise to your boyfriend that he won't do anything to break your guys apart. That will make your boyfriend feel comfortible. Remember you love your boyfriend, not your friend. My girlfriend chose her friend over me. One day I found out they were sleeping together in my own house. I let them hang out all the time together and that is what happened....
2006-11-14 07:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by confusedagain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it isnt cheating......ur boyfriend is over-jelous.......i have seen this alot in my life......sit down and ask ur b/f y he doesnt want u to hang out w/ the guy......if he doesnt give u a straight answer or makes an excuse like "because i said so" or "y do u need a reason" etc etc.........then tell him that u will not stop being friends w/ this dude......if he gives u a good reason then try to come up w/ a comprimise.........and if u 2 r in a relationship then u should have no prob telling him what u 2 r doin together.....prove to him that he is over-reacting.....and if that doesnt work.....then ur b/f has problems he has to work out on his own
2006-11-14 07:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by inuyashaincarnate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a grown mature woman I have found that we cross paths with many, but few become friends. If he is a friend you want to continue having a friendship with and can see that you two will be long time friends, boot the boyfriend, they come and go, friendship is hard to find, and keep.
Best of Luck
2006-11-14 07:18:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to choose between him and your boyfriend. Guys do not become friends with girls just because. He is your friend because he wants to be there for you when your boyfriend messes up, so he can be your boyfriend; especially since he hit on you to begin with. His feelings have not changed unless he became gay.
2006-11-14 08:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by chad t777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not considered cheating. Your boyfriend shouldn't be able to say whether you can be friends with someone or not. It's your own choice. But I understand why he's afraid of losing you . . .
2006-11-14 07:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not cheating...but it is making your boyfriend upset because he knows how guys play games.A guy will like you and "be your friend" while your in a relationship because they know when something goes wrong THEY can be your shoulder to lean on......they want to bring your spirits up when your boyfriend brings you down.......guys are just as sneaky as girls when they want to be....so your boyfriend doesn't want him to be your friend because your "friend" has other intentions.....
2006-11-14 07:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by Shana T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not cheating at all. I see it as this,your bf has friends who are girls,who possibly could like him you trust him. He has trust issues.
2006-11-14 07:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋