Dealing with an ex-wife?

Question

I'll try to make a long story short....
My husband and I have only been married about 6 months..and we both have kids from previous marriages...my ex and I get along great...for the kids....his ex is a raging B****! I have tried to make things go as smoothly as possible, but she refuses to work with us...even though it will benifit all of the kids...I know the best way to deal with this to live a happy life, and to give her no thought..but she constantly bad mouths us to friends and family, the kids included..I know it's importiant to be the better person..but one can only take so much! What I need from you all, is a nice little message to send to her!! I've thought about a nice family pitcure of us with all the kids fed-ex'd to her home..but still seems to nice! So if you have any ideas...please no just be the better person...I'm all ears...nothing too illegal please...lol
thanks...

Answer 1

If she doesn't want to cooperate, then don't. It's better for her and you.

If she kept badmouthing you to friends, families, and the children, let her. But you should start a subtle propaganda that truthfully reflect you and her in a positive way, let people know that she is nice, let people know that you are nice. All of her badmouthings will become useless.

Answer 2

Wow, difficult people are difficult because they're hurting. They have needs which they feel are not being met....for what ever reason. your doing the right thing. Don't stop there is a light at the end of the tunnel. My ex-wife was the same and believe me the kids will catch on to it and she will either change because your not feeding in to it or she will be held accountable by the kids. Pretty soon the same ole routine will get old because everyone will catch on and she will loose all her steam. It took about 3-4 years of me not feeding into her for the end result we have now..... We get along and are understanding of the issues and there is mutual respect as well. I'm sorry there is not a quick fix. your doing well by choosing Joy...continue to do so. Oh, and your going to get mad, it's what you choose to do in your anger that will make the difference.

Answer 3

My first idea after interpreting your submit replaced into: pay someone to scare her so she strikes away... Lol hoever that doesn't be very valuable! She does sound like she is somewhat psycho... yet i imagine you mustn't be threatened by her. Your bf loves you so I doubt shell be able to get decrease back into his existence in any opposite direction than his courting consisting of his son. My propose might want to be... Step up an font enable her recognize that you're feeling threatened reason then shell experience like she is in administration, shell experience extra waiting to ruin you. fairly face her. And enable her see that you and your guy are satisfied mutually and that there is not something she will be able to do about it! And as for utilizing you as nannies, nicely it really is honestly as a lot as you an how a lot you enable her destroy out with. i'm confident that as long as you 2 act as a crew, face this mutually as a crew, she will be able to locate there is not something she will be able to do to reallly damage your courting! solid success

Answer 4

The family pictures and postcards and all that dosent work. BELIEVE ME. She is doing little things intentionally to hurt you. She feels like you stole him from her (wether you did or not) and the best solution is to just explain to her that the court dosent look kindly on parents badmouthing each other in front of the kids. suggest some counseling for her and smile while you tell her that everything in you and your husbands life is great, too bad that hers isnt!

Answer 5

all of the answers the viewers gave u are good! so my answer agrees with them. if she comes up on you beat the s!*?* out
of her.she's just jealous because you have her husband and he
is yours now. no dont' show her anything nice she will think
your weak and think she can run over you anytime. you give
her a fight! a run for her money. my husbands ex-wife
is some what like that but she uses their 13 year old daughter
which is not mines, i have no children or no children by
my husband yet. but when her daughter comes over to
our house she gos back and tells her mother which
is my husband ex-wife every thing that gos on in our
life and house.

Answer 6

You were right the first time. Live happily with rounded shoulders and never speak poorly of the ex in front of the children. They can figure things out pretty well on their own.

Being nasty in return will only fan the fire and make matters worse. In time, she will find better things to do and focus her time on something other than your family.

Answer 7

Here is the best message, none at all. Ignore her, tell your hubby it is his job to deal with his ex, get on with your life with him. Don't yo see she is just trying to make you unhappy?...
Don't let her win, the best way you can send her the messge you want to is ignore her ugly a**...let it go or it will eat you up. She doesn't deserve your attention, she isn't your problem.
She will leave you alone as soon as she gets a life of her own, easier said then done, but be patient, she will go away evenually. good luck and hang in there, I completely understand your frustation, beene there done that...if she knows she is getting to you she will keep it up...IGNORE HER......god bless, it's tough, she's tough, be tougher.!!!!!!

Answer 8

as a parent myself, I would pursue the legal angle of getting a judgment against her to stop the emotional abuse of the kids.

family court judges frown on parents badmouthing each other in front of the kids, and getting a judge to tell her legally, "shut up or loose visitation or custody" maybe the only option you have, short of continuing to put up with it. putting up with it, however, is not putting the welfare of the kids 1st. stopping it is.

Answer 9

nothing to illegal i say write her a letter thanking her for your husband. Saying that you never knew how really good it was to have sex until you met him. Thank her for all the things he does for you. Obviously she is still bitter that he isnt with her anymore. Good luck

Answer 10

Best revenge is NOTHING....let her go around talking crap. She will look like a bitter ex spouse.

No attention will kill her - any attention will let her know that you are being bothered by her actions!