We already have some cheating history between us which was supposed to be just that - HISTORY. Then about 2 weeks ago I hear a voicemail from the hoe he cheated on me with saying "Let me know if you want me to meet you...". He and she have proclaimed that her calling was a one time thing, that there was no on-going anything. That she was visiting the city where we live now on business and she wanted to call him to say hi as a friend (BIATCH). He says he knew nothing about this and was never going to go meet the tramp. But I don't believe him; she has lied for him before. I told him the only thing I would accept as proof would be the phone bill for the last few months so I can see if he has been calling her. He says he can't do that because it's a company phone. He is friends with the bookkeeper, it's a small office, and I know he could make up something if he really wanted to prove his innocence, but he says it isn't possible. He refuses to leave cause of his daughters.
2006-11-14 07:04:03 · 20 answers · asked by Nadia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You answered your question in your question. If he doesn't provide proof, then he is lying. If you know for sure he can get that and want, you know for sure he is lying to you. Why do you want to stay with someone you can't trust? He obiviously doesn't love you or he wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place. If you love someone, you're not going to hurt them. Dump the loser. Good luck.
2006-11-14 07:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like all trust is gone for you anyway, so why bother. And even if the phone records come up clean, there are Tracfones, cell phones, emails, and kinds of other ways to communicate, so the office phone is only one of several potential options. I'd concentrate more on deciding what's best for your kids, because the anxiety level in your home must be very high, and even though they may not know what's going on, they deserve to have as stress free a childhood as possible.
2006-11-14 15:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing kills a marriage faster than doubt. You know that he has cheated in the past, and you must make a decision whether or not you want to live with doubt hanging over your marriage for the rest of your life. Either forgive him for the past, and quit doubting him until you have absolute proof that he is once again cheating or you are going to ruin your marriage doubting him and looking for trouble where trouble may not exist. You are smart for keeping an eye on him, but you must stop blaming and accusing him, the truth will present itself. Everytime you accuse him or ask him questions showing your distrust, you cause doubt in your marriage. Your marriage will never survive if you can't wipe the slate clean, and start over. I'm not saying you should do this, you have to make that decision. You don't have to forget, but you will have to forgive if you want your marriage to survive.
2006-11-14 15:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it the history only pertains to him?
If it's history, why bring down the hammer...Are you still bitter about the cheating? Or are you not trying to heal the wound....if you are suspicious and you can't trust him maybe you need to leave get a new life....
Children don't always have to stay with a mother..He'd freak and most likely provide those bills for your inspection if you decided to leave. That is if you are wrong and he's not cheating again.
2006-11-14 15:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by tincre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing at all wrong wanting PROOF if your man is cheating on u espeacially with all these godd*m disease's out here!!but if he says that he can't get the phone records then... let it slide 4 just this one time.all this comotion should have scared him up anyway,he knows better next time ,just tell him your gonna let it slide this time but next time don't f up.
2006-11-14 15:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just visiting on business? ASAP find out where she works and call her office. Try to find out if she is on a business trip. Even do it while your husband is sitting there. He should agree to it if there is nothing wrong.
2006-11-14 16:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by mecasa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She called him on his "work" phone?
It's plausible that she initiated contact and that he didn't respond. You can't control what the other person does.
Keep forcing him to prove himself when he is innocent and he will soon go and make himself guilty.
2006-11-14 15:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hellow nadia,
the relation in between wife and husband is very sensitive and totally based on faith, both the partners should faith eachother, perhaps, u are looser in this case, u should belive on your husband what he is telling, this is not a court where u are asking him for producing proofs, perhaps, u will understand it and would go on towards your bright future.
have a best good luck, good night !
2006-11-14 17:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough question maybe hire a private investigator they have there ways of getting those files. Hey your name is the same as my sisters!!
2006-11-14 15:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a very simple formula to follow with your husband. GUILTY until proven innocent. Hell, you know he's guilty...get the inner strength to admit it.
2006-11-14 15:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋