When should I settle down?

Question

I turn 24 today. I am in law school and have a good job at a firm. I'll be finished with school in a year. I have an amazing boyfriend, but we've only been together for a few months. I've traveled all over and feel pretty grounded. I've never wanted a kids before, but lately I've kind of been thinking about having kids, but I don't want it to end my fun life! Help!

Answer 1

Happy Birthday. You should probably settle down tomorrow. Definately not today.

Answer 2

oh, dear n dear ... u thought about the fun instead of LIFE that sounds ... not too serious about what u might have or what you could really worth a while to get them all in the whole meaning life as making u completed.

a woman must be smart enough to know the one whom would be the Mr. Right to u then u should think seriouly about settle down yourself not as ground you but bounded with more fun n sort of interesting things together ... though u might need to make them all nice n easy in the same time also take it easy not lazy ... dear, young is great but not to waste the way.

Actually the more you gave away then the more you gained in some other way. u know ... not to think about too much but do it right while u still young not to try anything wrong ... just enjoy yourself more in every little thing. it is good to lay back sometimes not as always ... put the responsibilities more than u would have the ability as the mighty wings to fly with ... i did!! that's why i'm a happy mother but just too eld to make me feel those days i valued so heavy as my career but not my family nor my love life but i was the one to lose all the fun to be within deeper n deeper. love means lot of giving, caring n kindness all the time as all the way u go. there you should go as second thought now.



get it? got it!!

Answer 3

Sounds to me like you have really "got things together"! Congratulations to you.

At only 24 you have "plenty" of time ahead of you to have a family and children. Enjoy the life you have now and make the most of it. If you live your life to the fullest "before" you get married and have a family, you will never have to feel like you "missed anything".

I think it's perfectly normal for you to be "thinking about kids" now, especially since you met a nice guy. Just because you are "thinking" about it, doesn't mean you should run out and have some!

It's a smart person who can learn from other people's mistakes and poor judgment. There are lots of people out there who had their children too young. Sadly, the ones who usually suffer the most are the children.

Being a parent is one of the most rewarding experiences we can have. It's just a better "experience" when you don't feel like it made you "miss out on life"!

You're headed in a great direction, keep it up and good luck to you!

Answer 4

You've really answered your own question in that last sentence. If you don't want to 'end your fun', you are not ready to settle as yet. Besides, you are still young anyway. Just for the record, being married and having a family is more fun, a different kind of fun. No more lounging on the sunbed until you are crisp reading a book, its more a case of bucket & spade holiday, playing in the pool, its great really!

Answer 5

It depends what you mean by settled down to some people that meansstaying just a few weeks in one place,having children doesnt have to mean not having fun life is not a rehersal try and go with the flow dont plan so much good luck you have got loads of time to find out where you want to be.

Answer 6

I got married at 24 had two autistic children and my life turned upside down. I wouldn't swap my life now for the world because my children and my husband are my world. It's not fun in the going on holiday and nights out, you can never go shopping like a normal person again or roam around town all Saturday afternoon, but then again there's nothing like snuggling up to a recently bathed toddler in their pyjamas for a bedtime story either.
My hub and I laugh about the crazy things we used to do, but settling down just sort of creeps up on you, one minute you can't imagine your life any other way, the next it's all changed and that's good too.

Answer 7

First off - at 24, you have plenty of time to continue on with your "fun life" AND to have kids later on. (I'm 32, and I'm just now contemplating having kids.) Second: when the time comes to have kids, a whole new kind of "fun life" opens up - the fun of seeing your child grow and develop; any parent will tell you how rewarding this experience is. If I were you, I wouldn't worry about "settling down" quite yet.

Answer 8

if youve just met this guy two months ago, your not ready yet anyway. You still want to have fun it sounds like. You are not ready for kids unless your ready to give up most of your free time to your kids. Kids require lots of time, money, resources, and patience. Try caring for your friends kids for a week or something, youll see what i mean. Also you know when your ready to get married when you have no doubt in your mind and you are not asking questions like these. If you have to ask someone if your ready and how to tell if you are, your not ready.
Be careful to weigh out pro and cons before taking such a big step.

Take care, best of luck.

Answer 9

The only time that you should settle down is when you are ready. If you need to ask us, you aren't ready. You don't want to give up your fun life, and there is nothing wrong with that at all. I didn't "settle" down until recently, and I am 34 now. People are marrying later in lie. No big deal if you want to wait too.

Answer 10

congratulations 24, oh how i wish. You are too young to settle down yet and definately not with your present boyfriend, you hardly know each other surely give yourself a few years to get your schooling finished and a good career going in the mean time live life to the full.

Answer 11

If you consider kids an end to your fun life, it is not time. Dont have kids just to have kids. Your fun will increase with kids. You will never be bored with kids. As a test, try to house train a dog. If the dog is trained before you give it away, you are ready to have kids.