ok. so there is this girl that i kno. she is a major drama queen, and she calls me EVERY DAY crying to me about things goin on in her life. she drives me INSANE!!! then she follows me around and stuff @ church. and lately she's been callin me her best friend! i dont kno what to tell her! i dont wanna hurt her feelings, but i just cant take this nemore! she doesn't kno it, but my friends and i talk about her, and how we r sick of her cryin to us. but nobody will take ne action! i want to be the first one to do that! so... if u think that is a good idea, what should i say to her, without crushing her?!?! please help me!
2006-11-14 06:23:27 · 12 answers · asked by shshomee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think it depends on what kind of "drama" she is telling you about everyday. It she really does have serious stuff going on at home, she may be crying out for help by spilling it all to you everyday - even though you find it annoying.
She probably considers you her best friend and always follows you around because she considers you her safe haven.
If you want to really keep from crushing her, but get her to stop talking to you about everything, tell her that it is hard for you to hear her problems and want her to talk to someone who can help more. Since I assume you're a teenager or younger, go to a teacher or an adult at church you trust with her to ask for their help in counseling her. They can probably handle listening to her better and may actually be able to help her end some of the drama.
By the way, grow up a bit and stop being selfish. She could really be going through a hard time. One day you might be, too, and those friends you are laughing at her with may laugh at you one day, too.
2006-11-14 06:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by teel2624 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soudn liek you area really ovewhealmed by her issues and that she has enough trust to tell you and only you. Do you feel annoyed by her? i think you are. Just tell her nicely that everything is gonna be ok and that you go to bed early when she calls you alot and in school just surround yourself with other people so she doens't follow you. Seems like she's going through some problems and all she wants is a good friend but if you don't want to be her friend jsut tell her that you feel weird that she follows you around alot.
2006-11-14 14:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard to do it without crushing her but nonetheless, it should be done. All of you need to sit her down and have a frank but calm talk with her and tell her that all her crying is starting to bring you all down and if she doesn't stop, you'll have to end the friendship. Just know, she probably doesn't have anyone else in her life to confide in and maybe she's starved for attention as well. Be gentle, she seems very fragile.
2006-11-14 14:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her that there is nothing you can do about her drama and move on. Either she can do something about it or get over it and shut up. Tell her that you don't want to hear about it anymore, cuz there isn't anything you can do. If you really don't want to be her friend at all, then tell her to shove it or something mean, but otherwise, let her down easy! Most people like that are just fishing for attention.
2006-11-14 14:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Manna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you say to her, she will get her feelings hurt. But you need to go ahead and tell her in a nice way that you are not up for the drama in her life. Friends need to be real to one another and if you aren't going to be real towards her, then is lying so you best just tell her the truth.
2006-11-14 14:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what makes you better than her? If your taking her calls and being nice to her you shouldnt just decide to abandon her because you and your friends talk about her. Be nice tell her your problems! Dont be harsh, she must look up to you a whole lot and you will hurt her terribly if you tell her that shes annoying. But then again if you dont care just tell her to get a life and you'll never have to worry about her again.
2006-11-14 14:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by Damien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IN PRIVATE: Tell her you understand that she is sensitive, that you know she has problems in her life: but is she aware of her complaining, is she aware that she does it all the time.? Tell her you want to be her friend, but there is a lot more to friendship than just listening to her crying. Tell her you think she is a nice person and that maybe she needs to look at how she communicates with others....Help her to see that there are others who have much bigger problems, homeless, hungry, sick, maybe she needs to invest some of her time in more prayer, tell to talk to Jesus, and he will show her the way.
2006-11-14 14:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should defiantly talk to this girl, tell her how you feel! If you are friends with her, you should tell her nicely that your tiered of hearing all of her dramatics. If she truly has a problem and wants advice just tell her to ask, but tell her shes turning people off with being SO dramatic.
she sounds attention craving...and maybe she just wants friends.
2006-11-14 14:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, she confined in you and think that you're the only friend in the world. first, don't talk about her behind her back; it's immature. she just want someone who can talk and listen to. if it bothers you that much, don't pick up the phone next time. and tell her you're busy doing something. just remember where she's coming from. she's just a lonely girl.
2006-11-14 14:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an honor when someone says you're his/her best friend. If you want to be a friend to her, tell her the truth that she needs to grow more but don't insult her.
2006-11-14 14:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋