if something hurts this much should I give up and just leave even though I love him? Rember that It isn't all about what he did it is as how bad it hurt and if it hurt that much should I leave. I already know people have their own thoughts on the subject so don't give me your thoughts on that please. To go to my blog click on my pick and then from my q and a page click on my yahoo 360 page.
2006-11-14 06:19:29 · 5 answers · asked by desiree d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have read your blog and there really is know one to blame out of respect to you i feel most of this is a self esteem issue only because i read your blog and saw that most of what you wrote were about your own insecurities, and fears and i just think that once you conquer your own fears the rest will be easy good luck
2006-11-14 07:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took a look at your blog (I have no intention or time to read it all) and you have some real self esteem issues. You seem willing to accept things like your husbands gambling so long as the bills are paid. But hes looking at pictures and now you feel its the end all be all. You are unhappy with your own body for virtually no reason.
You want support through this pain you say he has caused you but what you are not realizing is that a lot of these people have had thier spouses beat, abuse and cheat them. Looking at porn is a drop in the bucket, Honey. You are making a mountain out of a molehill. Sometimes during a marriage you need to learn to accept certain things, compromise in order for it to work. But where you need to start is within yourself. You need to realize that you are deserving and need self respect and esteem.
2006-11-14 14:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down and talk with him. I know youve tried it before but you are going to have to keep doing it until he realizes why it hurts you. These problems with your husband are common ones. I dont get what the big deal of looking at porn is meaning what can he get off of that, that he cant out of you. You are real and that is more important than some pictures. In reality every girl has the same body parts so what is the big deal of having it in the first place. Also meaning that What does he need to look at it for if it hurts you. You have boobs and a coochie too. You are built the same way. He shouldnt of gotten married if he wanted to explore if you need to talk more email me id be happy to talk to you i went through some of the things you did to. Im lucky my husband realized it hurt me and he stopped.
2006-11-14 14:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have skimmed through your blog (way too long) and I have read your question several times and are wondering what is it you want. You seem to be depressed, angry, irritable, suicidal and lashing out at the people who really love you. Everybody makes mistakes if you can't forgive and move on you will never find happiness.
If you do not wish a comment please do not post it here, if you seek help contact a therapist. They can help you deal with things and provide you with ways to deal with stress and provide meds to balance out the negative feelings while your recovering. Suicidal thoughts should not be overlooked, they will never go away unless you seek professional help.
2006-11-14 15:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it hurts. I dont know the answer.
2006-11-14 14:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋