mt wife & i are seperated for 2 months now .been married for 12yrs.the last 11 yrs she never came to me wantng sex .it was always me making the move & times she would say do have to? or we did just the other day . guys how would this make u feel? it makes me feel that im not loved
2006-11-14 06:07:21 · 25 answers · asked by buttnaked1956 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Either your wife has no interest in sex or she feels that you're asking her for sex too often. You should talk to her and find out why she feels this way. Many women like to be romanced and made to feel special before they'll have sex. It's a big turnoff to just be asked for it on a moment's notice.
2006-11-14 06:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your wife!! Is she having an orgasm when you guys make love? Is it possible that you think she is, and she is just faking it? I am sorry, but unfortunately A LOT of women do this and it is awful. How are you supposed to know what to do if we are faking it??!!? Do you tell her how hot she is and how you couldn't stop thinking about her all day, or does it come around for bed time and you just expect it? Women need a little warm up! Take your time and make sure you please her on a regular basis...I guarantee she will come around!
A sexually satisfied wife = A sexually satisfied husband, it isn't necessarily true the other way around!!!
2006-11-14 06:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
79% of all women don't even like sex because it isn't enjoyable for them.
the other 21% that do like it have men that get them off and make it worth the time. these women are the ones that don't wait for the guy to start it and are the ones that go after it themselves.
the 79% that don't like it will due just what you said your wife was doing and the chances are she you weren't really doing the trick and a women has needs and if one man can fill those needs she will eventually get it needs filled else where.
My wife and have a great sex life just about every night and she starts it 9 out of 10 times.
2006-11-14 06:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by 4mika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking so much let her make the choice, if she wants to have sex or not. My husband is the same way everyday he thinks that I'm supposed to have sex whenever he wants it. I get tired , I have 2 kids to look after and a house to run , You and my husband need to be more sensitive to other peoples needs, not just yours. If I sound mad then I apologize to you but It makes me mad that sex is all that guys think about , and just because she didn't ask you for it that doesn't mean that she's trying to hurt your feelings. Trust me.
2006-11-14 06:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you brother, I feel you,
Yes, some times I think they are even a different species.
Let me ask you this, was she like that when you were dating? If yes, then you bought a lemon. If no, think what happened. Do you have kids w. her now? Is she working or at home mom/wife? Too much money or not enough? Have you got FAT? bald?
I mean the women mind is so bogus!
2006-11-14 06:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by Manny L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why she never came to you for sex. Any possiblity that there is a medical situation. My thyroid was off and my hubby and i didnt have sex for 5 months and it was fine with me. He was very upset though and when I think back, i can't blame him. He was very hurt by my inability to not only to avoid sex with him, but also that it really didnt matter to me. My thyroid is back on level and I can say that I come to him daily...sometimes more. I do know that he loves when I come to him and ask him for some lovin. I hope things turn around for you. Kaylee
2006-11-14 17:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by KaLee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My marriage is the same, but wife has fibromyalgia. I try to be understanding. So we have sex 4 or 5 times a year.
2006-11-14 06:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Exact same situation except married for twenty.Wife acts like its another chore like doing another load of laundry.Marriage is over thats a part of the reason although I think other problems show up in the bedroom.
2006-11-14 06:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like her love language is NOT physical touch. She needs to feel loved in other ways before she wants to put out in a sense.
I am kinda like that so i understand. Before I feel like being intimate I need stability, someone to help me around the house, help with the kids, etc and then I will want to have sex.
Not saying that this is *your* fault completely, but it sounds like communication was an issue.
Good luck to you!!!
2006-11-14 06:12:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried romancing her lately? Maybe all she needs is a bouquet of flowers and a nice night out for dinner or somethin. Try something cute like leaving notes or rose petals for her to follow etc. If you put a little effort into it, she may surprise you
2006-11-14 06:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by CHRYSTAL I 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋